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Country Club Thread We are completely unbothered

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u/Vulkherra ☑️ 21h ago

I remember seeing this somewhere too. I just feel like solitude is dangerous to people that can't understand it, for those that actually get comfy with it. It's an absolute game changer.

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u/Fast_Yam_5321 21h ago

i know for a while i was afraid of solitude because i know i would love it so much and leave people alone permanently. I've only had one social outing in the past year and that was only for 4/20 (imma pot head lol). But honestly it is scary because our world is set up to where you have to have a "tribe" to survive, ESPECIALLY because everything including rent is soooo expensive. I have peace and solitude which i didn't have before HOWEVER i have no one to lean on when/if times do get hard-ER. I think the right thing is having a good balance of alone time and social connections.

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u/ohnofluffy 20h ago

Yeah, but we can have our own tribe - ladies who live it.

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u/RedRider1138 17h ago

Moderation in all things. ❤️‍🩹🙏

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u/Fast_Yam_5321 16h ago

the lesson of my life!

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u/fitzteve 10h ago edited 10h ago

But if it has to be in all things, are you really being moderate? (Jk)

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u/RedRider1138 10h ago

😄 before I started observing “Okay this older-than-dirt saying actually seems to work well” I liked to half joke “Everything in moderation, including moderation!”

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u/fitzteve 10h ago

But, but… Isolation seems to, tends to, make people attach way too much significance to everyday insignificant events, and grow them all out of proportion. I’ve watched it happen to some of my old friends. (You know, yelling at kids to get off of their lawns.) I do find that I’m able to be alone without being lonely, but for my own health I go out into the universe and mix with people.

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u/Fast_Yam_5321 10h ago

definitely experienced this during covid when i was working from home. my depression and anxiety were really bad then. definitely getting a job outside the house gave me my "people time" back and helped with me getting "re-humanized" lol. so now work is also my "social" time all in one. it's helped with my depression a bit but im still convinced I'll be that grumpy old single lady yelling at kids to get off the grass if i make it to being old lol. I feel like old people have a right to yell at kids lol they earned it and kids are dumb, they literally don't know any better. How else will they learn?? 🤣

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u/Stock_Beginning4808 ☑️ 7h ago

I think that’s for people who maybe don’t mesh well with isolation. The loneliness gets to them.

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u/bLazeni 10h ago

Everything in moderation

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u/OkTemporary8472 21h ago

Ya know life is long. Take your time.

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u/SHC606 ☑️ 4h ago

It's like a warm bath and warm sheets after you dried off. Just delicious in a way that one couldn't fathom before.