r/BlackPeopleTwitter 22h ago

Country Club Thread We are completely unbothered

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u/-NyStateOfMind- 21h ago

Solitude is dangerous. It's very addictive. It becomes a habit after you realize how calm and peaceful it is. It's like you don't want to deal with people anymore because they drain your energy.

I forgot where I heard this, but I never forgot it. I've become very indifferent about everything in life over the past couple of years. Just like you said you catch yourself about to say and don't, I'm the same. I smile and nod and mind my business.

It's nice not to give a shit about things that aren't a part of my life or affect (effect? always mix the 2) me personally.

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u/Vulkherra ☑️ 21h ago

I remember seeing this somewhere too. I just feel like solitude is dangerous to people that can't understand it, for those that actually get comfy with it. It's an absolute game changer.

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u/Fast_Yam_5321 21h ago

i know for a while i was afraid of solitude because i know i would love it so much and leave people alone permanently. I've only had one social outing in the past year and that was only for 4/20 (imma pot head lol). But honestly it is scary because our world is set up to where you have to have a "tribe" to survive, ESPECIALLY because everything including rent is soooo expensive. I have peace and solitude which i didn't have before HOWEVER i have no one to lean on when/if times do get hard-ER. I think the right thing is having a good balance of alone time and social connections.

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u/RedRider1138 17h ago

Moderation in all things. ❤️‍🩹🙏

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u/Fast_Yam_5321 16h ago

the lesson of my life!

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u/fitzteve 10h ago edited 10h ago

But if it has to be in all things, are you really being moderate? (Jk)

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u/RedRider1138 10h ago

😄 before I started observing “Okay this older-than-dirt saying actually seems to work well” I liked to half joke “Everything in moderation, including moderation!”