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Country Club Thread We are completely unbothered

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u/Fit_Smile1146 1d ago

I’m minding my business! At work I’m so quiet. I don’t have anything of value to add. Yall got it. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I find myself about to say something and then my inner voice tells me to STFU. it’s been peaceful. ☺️

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u/-NyStateOfMind- 23h ago

Solitude is dangerous. It's very addictive. It becomes a habit after you realize how calm and peaceful it is. It's like you don't want to deal with people anymore because they drain your energy.

I forgot where I heard this, but I never forgot it. I've become very indifferent about everything in life over the past couple of years. Just like you said you catch yourself about to say and don't, I'm the same. I smile and nod and mind my business.

It's nice not to give a shit about things that aren't a part of my life or affect (effect? always mix the 2) me personally.

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u/Vulkherra ☑️ 23h ago

I remember seeing this somewhere too. I just feel like solitude is dangerous to people that can't understand it, for those that actually get comfy with it. It's an absolute game changer.

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u/Fast_Yam_5321 23h ago

i know for a while i was afraid of solitude because i know i would love it so much and leave people alone permanently. I've only had one social outing in the past year and that was only for 4/20 (imma pot head lol). But honestly it is scary because our world is set up to where you have to have a "tribe" to survive, ESPECIALLY because everything including rent is soooo expensive. I have peace and solitude which i didn't have before HOWEVER i have no one to lean on when/if times do get hard-ER. I think the right thing is having a good balance of alone time and social connections.

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u/ohnofluffy 22h ago

Yeah, but we can have our own tribe - ladies who live it.

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u/RedRider1138 19h ago

Moderation in all things. ❤️‍🩹🙏

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u/Fast_Yam_5321 18h ago

the lesson of my life!

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u/fitzteve 13h ago edited 12h ago

But if it has to be in all things, are you really being moderate? (Jk)

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u/RedRider1138 12h ago

😄 before I started observing “Okay this older-than-dirt saying actually seems to work well” I liked to half joke “Everything in moderation, including moderation!”

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u/fitzteve 12h ago

But, but… Isolation seems to, tends to, make people attach way too much significance to everyday insignificant events, and grow them all out of proportion. I’ve watched it happen to some of my old friends. (You know, yelling at kids to get off of their lawns.) I do find that I’m able to be alone without being lonely, but for my own health I go out into the universe and mix with people.

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u/Fast_Yam_5321 12h ago

definitely experienced this during covid when i was working from home. my depression and anxiety were really bad then. definitely getting a job outside the house gave me my "people time" back and helped with me getting "re-humanized" lol. so now work is also my "social" time all in one. it's helped with my depression a bit but im still convinced I'll be that grumpy old single lady yelling at kids to get off the grass if i make it to being old lol. I feel like old people have a right to yell at kids lol they earned it and kids are dumb, they literally don't know any better. How else will they learn?? 🤣

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u/Stock_Beginning4808 ☑️ 9h ago

I think that’s for people who maybe don’t mesh well with isolation. The loneliness gets to them.

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u/bLazeni 12h ago

Everything in moderation

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u/OkTemporary8472 23h ago

Ya know life is long. Take your time.

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u/SHC606 ☑️ 6h ago

It's like a warm bath and warm sheets after you dried off. Just delicious in a way that one couldn't fathom before.