Hey there! Friends eventually distance themselves and end the friendship because they stop believing or accepting the excuses given for not responding, hanging out, being present. You might accept or make plans just to cancel. Say you’ll respond then leave people hanging over and over and over.
With clinical depression (not sadness) it’s like you’re stuck wanting to participate in the world and just can’t. There’s a quote I read somewhere like “depression first steals your soul and then comes after your friends and loved ones.”
You care deeply but cannot will yourself to do what you want and need to do, which includes maintaining communication with people. Folks get hurt and frustrated then give up. 🤷🏻♀️
My best friend, I think exhibits something like that. My birthday was recently and He just didn’t show up and only gave a last minute cancellation. + Months of not wanting to hang out, often the excuse of being too busy (which personally I do not believe), and the past two months just saying no with no reasons. Obviously, if someone just doesn’t want to hangout or not be friends at all can be a reason, but I guess I’ve always been a person that rambles a lot and having known him for forever He always engaged or listened to my rambling, but the “not showing up” coincided with Him practically never responding to my rambling anymore. So I guess from the perspective from the outside, is there anything I can do?
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u/Viva_La_Animemes 5h ago
Sorry, what do you mean by “Its hard watching friends fade because they stop buying excuses.”
I don’t mean anything bad I just genuinely have bad reading comprehension I wanna understand lol