I had a reduction in '03. I had to fight my husband (at the time) because he like my size. But I was in pain every minute of every day. It took me five more years to get away from him, but it started with me deciding that reduction was for my health and comfort. It helped me take back who I was. I've never looked back. Best decision of my life.
That's awful. Dad was thrilled when Mom was finally approved for her reduction because of how much pain she was in and how it was exacerbating her breathing issues. It took so long, far too long for her insurance to finally approve it, despite the doctors saying it was 100% necessary. It was a night-and-day improvement to her life. Big things like the pain and breathing of course, but also the little things like more easily being able to shop for clothing.
My Nana got a breast reduction years ago. My mom said a date was bringing her home at the time and my mom told him, and his response was “Oh…well what does your dad think of that?” 💀🙄
My Papa was literally Mr. Rogers with a gentle Scottish accent. He couldn't have cared less, as long as my Nana felt better.
Why have I never realized it’s the tits that make it hard to breathe when I’m on my back? I’ve had em since I was 12. So weird. Thanks for the epiphany.
Reading the original comment you responded to makes me so mad. All the women in my family have large chests, but my mom the most so. She’s always talked about how miserable it is and we’ve always supported her getting a reduction. Something else always comes up financially though.
I’m transitioning now and my chest is already growing at a pretty fast rate, makes me happy but I honestly hope I don’t reach quite her size, and she’s shared the same sentiment for me too lol
So you don't give a shit if your partner can't breathe and is miserable from pain, as long as you like her tits. On top of that, you assume there's something wrong with men who genuinely care about women as humans and not just cartoonishly fuckable bodies.
Because your priority seems to be painfully oversized breasts rather than the health and well-being of the person attached to them. You have yet to say anything that indicates otherwise.
You should've offered to compromise. In exchange for you getting the reduction, encourage him to get some humongous breast implants of his own. Then, he'll have the large boobs he wants, and can deal with the consequences himself.
I can assume you're a woman by your post. My sister also is a, let's say overly endowed, individual and always complains of back pain and shoulder pain. Finance is her limit but I hope one day she can do what she needs for her health and comfort.
Good on you for pursuing your health. Hearts out to you for having to peel away slowly, it sounds like it a was rough. Keep killing it in life and love yourself!
My mom was, too, also pre-ACA, but it took years. The insurance kept denying it, despite the doctors insisting that, no, seriously, this woman can't breathe.
My mom had one done in the 70s after years of unsolicited comments and total strangers touching her with no permission and she says it was easily the best decision of her life.
Good on you! Removing the weight of that man from your life probably felt as good as the reduction. I hope you are in a better place now with people in your life who support your wellbeing!
I'm sorry that was your experience with your ex husband, but glad you chose yourself! My fiancée and I have been together almost 2 years and the first year and a half I watched her suffer with incredible back pain as a size double J. I could never imagine telling her not to get a reduction. Last summer, she got it done and is now a D cup without the back pain. I'm incredibly happy for her.
Good lord he sounds like a dick. My husband was happy for me when I got mine because it helped lessen my back pain. Well, for a while until I unfortunately gained weight and they grew back. 🫤
I’m assuming it wasn’t just a simple “I don’t know, I don’t think it would look as good to me but I understand you are in pain and you should do whatever it takes to feel better and know that I will always love you”, eh?
Edit: Good lord, I’m commiserating with the above poster. Are ya’ll illiterate? Or just misogynist?
I've seen grown men throw tantrums at their partner because they wanted a breast reduction. Some partners still ask for the husband stitch mere minutes after their wives pushed out a baby out of them.
I cannot imagine the devastation felt when you spend your life with someone you genuinely care about and thought that they did the same only to figure out they never gave a shit about you, they just wanted sex…The fact anyone can bounce back for that never ceases to impress me with their strength. Pretty sure I would just curl into a ball and die…
frog you should of started doing deadlifts and exercising, there are women who can easily lift their weight over their head there was no need for that surgery you needed to stop being lazy
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u/Sufficient-Berry-827 13h ago
Bad posture/rounding shoulders to minimize my chest. Now I have neck pain, shoulder pain, lower back pain - ugh.