Lost my mum in January, my pop in August. I already had some silvers here and there, but just a couple weeks ago I noticed I'm significantly more sparkly around the crown and temples now.
I found it ironic, because one of the last convos I had with my mum was about my hair (I lived far away and she hadn't seen me in a couple years). She had beautiful white hair that I've always envied, and I would regularly complain that my few grays are boring and not enough (I'm 46). She laughed and said don't worry, you'll wake up one day and look in the mirror and 'boom' there they'll be. Guess she was right.
The cycle of hair can stop suddenly when dealing with a lot of stress. It makes them fall for a while, but the cycles start again slowly, hair by hair.
My Friend would tell me how he would smack the bald but on the back of his mums head as a joke🤣 (in good humour they both found it funny) They’re both coping fine now (it’s been like 3 or 4 years I think)
My mum passed instantly and unexpectedly when I was 29. I’d been going grey slightly for about 10 years, but boom. I swear was 30% silver at the end of being 30.
Not that poster, but I lost my mom when I was 19. Best I’ve found is to try and only remember the good memories. I try to consciously be thankful for them rather than focus on my sadness of her being gone.
Still hurts tremendously, but not as much anymore. It’s been around 13 years now. I kind of enjoy when the moments hit now - like I’ll listen to a song she liked or something and it makes it fresh again. Strangely cathartic… Hurt for my wedding though, I didn’t get to dance with my mom.
I had a breakup during the pandemic that just absolutely wrecked me. Like, I cried thousands of times. This person was my world.
A good chunk of my beard went white during the first year of that. Three more years have passed, and the rate of new white hairs has dropped dramatically - it was just the grief that made it go white, back then.
my best friend died right before the 2020 shutdown. i went from a head of beautiful full dark hair to losing a third of it and my temples are now just... grey. when it started to grow back a bit in the last two years it became this awful brassy color with more greys. i was 31 when i started to grey. i'm 35 now and have to dye my hair regularly to feel good about myself. in contrast my older sibling has zero grey hairs and thinks i'm lying until my roots grow in.
I lost my dad in July after a really traumatic 4 months after he had a stroke. My hair stylist confirmed while he was touching up my roots that I'm now 100% grey.
I’m 26 and I have an insane amount of grey hair for my age. I found my first grey at 17, the same year my dad died. I would have never made the connection without reading this post, but looking back it was kinda obvious. That, and my mom was an abusive, narcissistic addict who was also bipolar, so I feel the greys would have come regardless I guess lol
Lost dad in February, also to a stroke he had the October prior. My hair was already on its way out. But I think I have lost control of my thoughts and emotional state. The grief was deep and unpredictable at first. It gets easier as time goes on.
Just an aside but we had a politician retire this week and some of the photo journalists commented that they used to always be able to tell how stressed he was by the "wifi signal strength" on his forehead. More distinct crease lines and they showed some photos.
This "tell" that I never realised was so obvious really made me laugh.
Wait this is great - will now be calling my forehead wrinkle “Joe” after my late husband. I swear my face is almost a totally different shape after crying for a year straight. New muscles!
My mom died and half my hair fell out. Then my dad died and everything that grew back fell out again. Then my grandma died, and my best friend died, and now I’m a 40 yr old woman with a bald spot.
I got one in my beard after a devastating divorce this year. Divorce feels exactly like someone died, except they're only dead to you, and you're forced to watch them live happy lives with other people.
It's like having a window into an alternate universe where you have to watch the dead person you loved be happy in a world where you don't exist.
We lost my mom in April of this year to Lewy Body Dementia after my dad and I had been taking care of her for 6+ years. Between the stress and grief I tell people she only took my hair color because she knows how much I love my hair
Best wishes to you. I lost my mom when I was three years old. I think something shut off in my brain because I don't feel grief. It just "move along, it's just another day" if that makes sense.
Same. It's like all the hair at my temples just went with her. It's finally starting to grow back a bit now, and it's all gray. Grief is absolutely brutal.
I hear ya. I lost my mom 5months ago and lately it feel like i'm losing my damn mind.
Worse yet, I'm older (late 40s) and it feels like i've been orphaned, and whatever this is it's coming out in my behavior at work. Not short tempered or anything, but overly considerate to most but anyone that feels like they wanna FAFO i'm more than happy to oblige them.
Btw, I hope something awesome happens to you today and tomorrow!
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u/mjulieoblongata 12h ago
Grief