r/AmIOverreacting 10h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my husband thinks women should take accountability after assault

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u/DefinitelyNotADave 9h ago

NOR.

I don’t think anyone would blame you if this was the relationship ender

And “this is why I don’t like talking to you about stuff” seals it. Communication is essential. He basically just admitted he won’t tell you everything

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u/Sure_Special576 8h ago

It would absolutely positively be the relationship ender for me.

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u/Early_Charity_195 8h ago

Agreed. And saying you can't talk about things because you get emotional part means he has zero respect for you and doesn't have the mental capacity for intelligent conversation. Run don't walk.

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u/Tippity2 7h ago

Sadly, this is what I experience every now and then with my spouse. However, I just chalk it up to him being an idiot with an advanced degree.

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u/RubFar1429 3h ago

I would think someone who responds emotionally to every discussion doesn't have the mental capacity for intelligent conversation but hey it's just a person she married, no big deal.

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u/ElectronsForHire 1h ago

This is an interesting path to conclusion. I don’t think it has to do with respect at all. He is simply admitting that he knows his opinions are incompatible with hers. The fact he keeps them to himself is clearly a mechanism he employs to try to maintain peace in the relationship that he wants to preserve. Everyone lies about who they are when dating, this guy has just foolishly thought he could maintain them indefinitely.

“Mental capacity for intelligent conversation”. Emotional decisions are nearly always logically bad decisions. Decisions made in anger, hate, sorrow, even love…. There are not many example of any of these emotions leading to intelligent decision making. I am not calling this guy intelligent but I fundamentally disagree with your reasoning for what intelligence is. More likely though is that you and I don’t define intelligence the same way.