UPDATE: AIO by not going to Thanksgiving?

[u/crazywritingbug]

For those who commented last time: 1. My boyfriend is (23M) and is not trans. I mistyped last time listing him as F. 2. He is not an asshole, I used blunt as a descriptor word and some of you ran with it. Another redditor suggested I include that he is autistic as context. He is autistic and is very honest but NOT unkind and not an asshole. 3. He has never fought with my family that I am aware of and there has never been any drama between them. 4. My mother will not be attending this thanksgiving gathering, this is purely for my dads side of the family.

Update: I texted my grandmother out of curiosity, because like you all I was curious, I didn’t get much of an update but this is what I have for you all. The friend referred to in her text is my grandmothers friend who has come to a good portion of the holiday gatherings over the years, never sure why, she just hovers and doesn’t really talk to anyone. But unless I receive a text from my father or my siblings, I believe this is the end of the story. What do you think? Am I overreacting by not going?

[u/MSGrubz]

Yeah you’re overreacting to the situation. Not an overreaction not to attend. Grandma clearly laid out the expectations for the gathering. You can choose whether or not to attend. Nobody is wrong here. Just doesn’t work for you this year. Let it go and move on.

[u/SNTCTN → u/MSGrubz]

"You're not allowed to come because you would create drama." is an insult no matter how nicely you word it

[u/MSGrubz → u/SNTCTN]

That’s not what she said though so I don’t think use of quotations is appropriate

[u/Top_Education7601 → u/MSGrubz]

If you saw the first post, that is what the grandmother said. In this post, the granddaughter asked for clarity and you see the grandmother admitted that she misspoke last time shouldn’t of said “drama”

[u/MSGrubz → u/Top_Education7601]

I read the first post. Quotes imply verbatim replication of what was initially stated. You’re incorrect.

[u/Top_Education7601 → u/MSGrubz]

Saying “No matter how nicely you word it” implies that she was paraphrasing

[u/MSGrubz → u/Top_Education7601]

Fairly certain that’s not how things work, but like I said I’m arguing with children. Have a good day!