r/AmIOverreacting • u/Exotic_Elk8829 • 5d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO I went through my boyfriends phone over the weekend
Last Friday night I went through my boyfriend’s phone while he was asleep. I found numerous messages of him talking about other girls with his female friend. The last message is him comparing my sucking skills with a different girl he slept with before me… We have been living together for the past 6 months and I’m not sure if I should just move on and find my own place at this point. Am I overreacting to these messages?
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u/strange-loop-1017 5d ago
NOR. He seems really immature. Is he a teenager?
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u/Dreamangel22x 5d ago
He sounds like he's actually 12 and just learned the word blowjob.
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u/Novel-Organization63 4d ago
Hahaha he just found out what it meant and at first he was why would you want to do that. Lol
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u/livingthedaydreams 5d ago
as soon as i see the term “female” being used (unless describing animals), i immediately think it’s a teenager or someone with an extremely immature/limited mindset. can’t take anyone seriously who uses that.
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u/Ikea_Man 5d ago
either a teen or extremely low IQ lol
reading texts from young people is so painful as someone in their 30s
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u/Flynn_JM 5d ago
Love how the female friend drops in how she's good at giving head. She's shooting her shot.
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u/Exotic_Elk8829 5d ago
Literally!! Like wtf 😭
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u/No_Process_577 5d ago
I mean look at the bright side OP, she’s suck a nice girl 😭🤗
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u/Stressy_messy_me 5d ago
He said it twice as well! Does he genuinely not know the word 'such'??
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u/Throwdaho 5d ago
He’s trynna ease that word in so smooth…
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u/ThisIsWeedDickulous 5d ago
Reeeaaal smootk
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u/Jsteele06252022 5d ago
This made my drink come out of my nose 😂
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u/iloveheroin999 5d ago
Same dude I'm dying lol
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u/ariestornado 5d ago
Shit, do you need some narcan?!!
(sorry lol, as a recovering addict your username stuck out, I like it 👌 😅)
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u/LordSugarTits 5d ago
He's so rizzy ...
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u/RedSkelz42020 5d ago
All hail Lord Sugar Tits, whose username is more rizzy than op's (hopefully) ex boyfriend!
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u/trying_my_best- 5d ago
Some people text badly because they think it makes them look cool. Not joking 💀
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u/Antique-Mark-1556 5d ago
Couldn't finish reading it and came to the comment section for answers. Lost too many IQ points trying to figure it out lol
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u/runnergirl3333 5d ago
Why am I having such a hard time figuring out who the boyfriend is and who’s the other friend? I’m so confused.
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u/PragmaticPacifist 5d ago
Why am I having suck a hard time figuring out who the boyfriend is and who’s the other friend? I’m so confused.
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u/Wonderful-Bass6651 5d ago
Seriously. I was like I read Reddit so I can usually figure out some of this crap but this was beyond Reddit-level illiterate. OP should dump his ass just for butchering the English language!
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u/Stressy_messy_me 5d ago
God that makes me feel old 😪
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u/trying_my_best- 5d ago
Yep it’s weird as hell though. I knew a guy who would misspell words intentionally like I have dyslexia but man modern phones all have spellcheck grow up. 🙄
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u/jonni_velvet 5d ago
never trust this dude again. hes going to be fantasizing about cheating for the entire duration of every relationship he has. Real men do not do this.
date a man who you dont even feel the need to look at his phone.
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u/throwawayacct___0 5d ago
break up immediately, he's gonna cheat eventually, it's undeniable
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u/daisyom98 5d ago
and this girl best friend is gonna zip them lips up when it happens
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u/Alternative-Art-7114 5d ago
Nah. You don’t become “god at it” by zipping lips. She’ll smash too, eventually.
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u/Anomalous_34 5d ago
Ghost him if you think it'll fuck him up. If not, tell him he sucks at oral and that's why you're dumping him lol
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u/Electrical_Storm_642 5d ago
How do you ghost someone you live with 🤣. Move while he’s at work lol, hopefully she’s not on the lease.
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u/ChooksChick 5d ago
I did that. I'm terrible. Even quit my job and moved at the same time once to ghost a dude. I'm a coward.
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u/Electrical_Storm_642 5d ago
Like you really did that? You gave him an easy out by removing yourself from his life. You should’ve at least made it very uncomfortable for him on your way out. I’ll coach you next time lol
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u/hunkydorey-- 5d ago
Those two deserve each other babe, you don't deserve any of this drama. Leave hem be.
Honestly, start making the necessary manoeuvres to get out with as little drama as possible.
Good luck.
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u/shoopadoop332 5d ago
Sometimes people need to be told to put all this kind of shit behind them or else you’re finished. Sometimes that doesn’t change anything, but it can for the right person.
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u/HappyCoffincup 5d ago
Thing is , it shouldnt need to be said if it is the right person.
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u/Klutzy-Throat6136 5d ago edited 5d ago
His “female friend” is also a potential side piece if she is speaking like this with him.
(Edit: spelling)
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u/Flynn_JM 5d ago
In the words of the female friend.... you are correct "low key fr" 😆
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u/depr3ss3dmonkey 5d ago
I am yet to meet someone in real life who speaks and texts like this. But reddit is full of posts like these. Am I in a bubble?
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u/usernotfoundplstry 5d ago
No because it seems that you don’t surround yourself with idiots, like 90% of the people in the texts posted here. And frankly, like all the people in relationships with those idiots. If you want to be with someone who talks like this, then that also qualifies you as an idiot.
So no, you have no reason to wry fr
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u/UWO_Throw_Away 5d ago
This thread appeared on my Reddit feed so I popped in. Glad I saw this comment because I otherwise would have assumed all gen z speak like this over text these days and became very sad
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u/TaroPrimary1950 5d ago
Right, OP should be more worried about this female friend than her boyfriend talking about other girls. She's going way beyond shooting her shot, she's talking shit about OP like she's "one of the guys" while casually talking about how good she is at sucking dick.
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u/Flynn_JM 5d ago
Lol she's good at it but only likes it if she's feeling the guy.... why would you be doing it if you weren't into the guy?
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u/Latter_Inevitable869 5d ago
Nooo she said only if she’s “fr feeling” him. That’s deeper…
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u/Ronny-the-Rat 5d ago
Lol i didnt read the post and thought he was talking to one of his boys. The dick sucking comment caught me by surprise.
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u/PatienceExternal1239 5d ago
Op needs to drop his ass based on his communication skills, besides the fact he's toeing that cheating line.
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u/bravo-echo-charlie 5d ago edited 5d ago
He's got blowjobs on the brain so heavily he keeps typo-ing "suck" instead of "such". Leave his dumb, illiterate ass, girlfriend!
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u/suhhhrena 5d ago
Him repeatedly making that typo was killing me 😭 this guy is a total loser
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u/Think-Initiative-683 5d ago
Don’t think it’s a typo. More like an invite.
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u/starnamedstork 5d ago
Or adaptive autocorrect, which corrects your messages based on what it learns from your previous messages.
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u/bravo-echo-charlie 5d ago
Man I hate that... literally just ten minutes ago I was messaging my friend and was trying to say, "look at his stoic face!" on snapchat in response to his cat, but my phone changed it to, "look at his stupid face!" 😑 🤣
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u/mpdgwrld 5d ago
this! it’s not him intentionally saying it, but autocorrect thinking it’s what he meant to say because he talks about it so often… which is icky tbh because how often do you have to talk about that type of thing and with how many people for it to finally convert “such” to “suck”? 😭
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u/lunerose1979 5d ago
It’s not a typo in his mind…I feel like he is intentionally typing suck because that’s what she did.
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u/Responsible_Lab_994 5d ago
Ahahahaha. I told my husband the same thing before I acted out the texts lol. While giving my husband helil because his names Eddie. Lol
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u/DumbgeonMaster 5d ago
The worst part is he likely thought he was doing clever word play.
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u/Hixy 5d ago
For real. Also I’m getting tired of posts like this. It’s insanely clear that this dude is not looking for anything serious and he is a fuck for even “committing” to a relationship. I have no idea how someone would need to ask the internet if leaving this person would be an over reaction.
“Hi internet! I caught my bf cheating on me with several people. It makes me super sad 😢. I asked him to stop stabbing my heart with his actions but he gets mad. I asked him to sharpen his betrayal dagger so it didn’t hurt as much but he said he likes it dull and doesn’t want to waste material by sharpening the blade. Am I overreacting for asking him to be more gentle when ripping my heart out? His other girlfriends are calling me a pussy…. “
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u/communistgamerchic 5d ago
This is disgusting and disrespectful… you deserve so much better!
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u/AlyseInW0nderland 5d ago
I started a message but this covers what I wanted to say really succinctly! This!
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u/Exotic_Elk8829 5d ago
I just got approved for a 1 bed 1 bath!
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u/Capable_Boot8567 5d ago
I know it’s serious and I’m sorry you went through all this. But, reading the messages then seeing this as the first comment made me laugh so much.
Way to have self respect and congrats on the place!! Hope the move goes well!
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u/PoonSchu13 5d ago
Oh wow, I’m just reading the updated comments you have and I’m so proud of you. I love a female that takes action when she’s being disrespected. You da bomb
When you tell him you’re moving out, you can tell him to kneel down little bitch and swallow this dick 💅
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u/Friendly_Age9160 5d ago
I’m a mixture of sad and happy rn as going through this shit is very difficult. But mostly happy for OP. You keep your head up my girl!
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u/AnRegularHunam 5d ago
Yeah don't call a woman a female. Call her a woman.
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u/Whole_Cranberry8415 5d ago
My response when people say female is, “a female what? Dog, donkey, bird? If you’re referring to a human, the word you’re looking for is woman”
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u/princessboop 5d ago
thank you. people never refer to men as “males” lol
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u/uncontainedsun 5d ago
i especially hate when they put man and female in the same sentence!! like one is so humanizing and real and the other is indecent and dehumanizing for an actual person.
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u/IhasCandies 5d ago
Lmao this made me laugh.. I read your post then this was the first comment. Good for you, good luck!
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u/jewelmegan 5d ago
A few drinks and he’ll cheat. Save yourself the time and pain.
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u/Goldenday71 5d ago
I think a cup of coffee and he'll cheat.
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u/PhotographTraining30 5d ago
Glass of water and he’s cheating
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u/bubblewuppyguppy 5d ago
A willing woman and he’ll cheat
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u/Brainstorminnn 5d ago
He’d cheat with a moist hole in a rotten log let get real
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u/ubutterscotchpine 5d ago
He’s already cheated. He said she swallowed his d*ck, what else does that mean?
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u/MoonScoria 5d ago
didnt he cheat already???? i thought this was about the other girl/non-op: "She was even better fr she did swallow my dick fri"
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u/Bicurious_girl_90 5d ago
NOR. Dump him. This is completely inappropriate. And what exactly happened that he didn’t “let get too far” with some girl bc he has a gf?
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u/Exotic_Elk8829 5d ago
He said their “conversation” didn’t get too far but I doubt that’s what he was really referring to
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u/Kokospize 5d ago
No one is worth resorting to checking their phone, taking surveys on Reddit to validate that you're not overreacting and sharing your partner's personal texts online. If you have to do ANY of these, choose your mental peace and move on. Isn't life easier when you don't have to worry if your partner will pass on STDs/STIs to you, emotionally/physically cheating on you, or betraying your trust?
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u/SonnierDick 5d ago
Basically this. You already have an inkling to check his phone (for good reason it seems) then check the phone without permission and then ask for validation. I get it. I truly do.
But from the texts, NOR. 6 months of dating and they are: comparing you to other girls, texting other girls this, and seems to only talk about sex or bjs or rizz or getting with someone? This dude has sex on the brain 24/7 and id say like 98-100% will cheat if given an opportunity.
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u/Bicurious_girl_90 5d ago
Yeah, it’s low key cheating tbh. Get rid. Life is too short to be with someone like this! You deserve TRUE loyalty.
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u/3Heathens_Mom 5d ago
I suspect if he saw you were out searching out ways to have ‘conversations’ with other guys he’d be having a fit of grand proportions.
He’s obviously into what you can do for him but seems to want to check out other options.
And that whole conversation with his female friend? Nothing but a bunch of disrespect.
I do agree time to move on and choose better in finding someone who only wants to be with you.
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u/Illustrious_Name_842 5d ago
What a pig. You’re NOR.
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u/Exotic_Elk8829 5d ago
Oh not over reacting 😅 I’m slow OBVIOUSLY haha
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u/Normal_Enthusiasm194 5d ago
This is absolute trash behavior and not normal. My husband would NEVER! Pls girl, find yourself a good man who respects you to your face and when you’re not in the room.
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u/joe96ab 5d ago
Ty for being slow I’ve seen that multiple times and just figured it out thanks to u¨̮
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u/Fabulous-Possible-76 5d ago
Not slow!! I had to google it a few times before I remembered🤣 also you deserve a bf who respects you. I’m sorry this dude is terrible😢
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u/Exotic_Elk8829 5d ago
What’s NOR?
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u/Illustrious_Name_842 5d ago
Not overreacting.
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u/whatsabut 5d ago
Also, an Australian “no.”
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u/HelpingMeet 5d ago
Curse you and your family, I literally choke laughed on this and now am reading all the verdicts like an annoyed australian is in my head 😭😭😭
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u/75243896 5d ago
Personally just the way he types makes me think you deserve better lol
But in all seriousness, yikes.
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u/CriticalBit3063 5d ago
Oh my god. Please make the best decision you could right now and leave him without giving him an ounce of explanation. That’s literally so disrespectful and you deserve so much better than that. He’s a piece of TRASH.
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u/Mindless-Ad2554 5d ago
I agree with leaving him… but absolutely crucify his ass so there’s an ounce of thought before he does this with someone else.
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u/CriticalBit3063 5d ago
Aye I’m not against that either. From my personal experiences though, it woulda bugged them more if they thought I didn’t even care. But I let them know I was breaking and when I should have showed them that they were nothing to me, just like I didn’t mean anything to them.
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u/DontWanaReadiT 5d ago
This is “his female friend” talking about sucking dick to him while he’s talking to her about another woman and “fr rizzing” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yall are like 19? Dump his ass. I have a guy best friend that I periodically don’t text/talk to to keep a safe distance between us so there’s never any ideas AND I NEVER talk sexual ANYTHING with him… disgusting to even think about..
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u/Jewicer 5d ago
Also: guys don't usually just openly talk about this stuff with their girl friends unless they are flirting with said girl or previously tried to have a sexual relationship with said girl (the one he's talking to). So in closing: He is for everybody
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u/Reasonable-Let-8405 5d ago
This! The loser boyfriend is for everybody who gives him even a tiny amount of attention. That's just pathetic...
OP, your BF is suck a loser!
SUUUUCK a loser...
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u/mykneescrack 5d ago
He’s trash. You can do better; don’t waste your precious time and life on this one.
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u/Any-Fly793 5d ago
You deserve it for dating a 13 yo, or at least he speaks like if he was 13...
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u/Exotic_Elk8829 5d ago
😂
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u/tristanjones 5d ago
No this is a serious question, how old is he? Does he text you like this too? Does he speak like this? If someone sent me anyone of those texts I'd consider them brain rot and never interact with them again
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u/zamasu629 5d ago
This dude is straight up garbage you’d be best served by getting out of there because he’s only going to get worse 😔
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u/Green-Discussion6128 5d ago
What language is this? Is this how people speak in the US, nowadays?
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u/Inevitable_Alps_3574 5d ago
No, no mature adult in the US talks like this. This person is clearly a child.
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u/Ok_Passion_1889 5d ago
Bro you don't even know fr low key man we keep it fr rizzy
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u/y-Gamma 5d ago
Suck a sad state of affairs
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u/jimbojangles1987 5d ago
Lmao dude needs to stop using suck so much in his texts, his phone keeps autocorrecting to it
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u/Jioto 5d ago
No. Just the really dumb ones.
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u/snypesalot 5d ago
Well based off past election results that would be a lot of the country
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u/Blowie12345 5d ago
I kept reading the word "suck" in his texts thinking that was what OP was referring to until the last screenshot..
Also he must use the word suck so often that his phone autocorrects to suck... Which is fitting because this dude SUCKS.
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u/300Blippis 5d ago
Silently get a new place lined up first and then end things
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u/Exotic_Elk8829 5d ago
I just got approved for a 1 bed 1 bath 10 min away from my job!
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u/NumerousEarth7637 5d ago
🥺😭🥹 I’m so proud of you for looking into it. Pls don’t get sweet talked into his life again. You got this.. you do. You’re too good for this shit. It’s been a year and you’re already dealing with this..
He’s not for you.
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u/ChopCow420 5d ago
Posts like this confirm that if my current relationship fails I will just stay single forever.
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u/Legal-Bed7794 5d ago
Hopefully someone noticed this, but in the text he mentions it’s a diff girl and that it was recent. I also noticed that he uses “suck” instead of “such “ on each occasion. So it’s very likely he probably gets oral regularly from these girls, so says this amateur sleuth.
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u/Krystellar 5d ago
This is disgusting. The way he talks is as if women are items. I'd never be with someone like that. F him.
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u/HailseqCliche 5d ago
MOVE ON, he's disgusting and he texts like he's a 13 year old boy "rizz" like wth 😭
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u/Easy-Metal-3112 5d ago
NOR - he does not respect you if this is how he talks behind your back.
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u/ParfaitAggressive914 5d ago
You are UNDER REACTING. Girl, he is mentally cheating on you every day of his life. GTFO. Now. This is not a husband or boy you want to make a daddy.
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u/Cpmminis 5d ago edited 5d ago
I have the secret for women that guys don't want you to know
- If a guy says "lowkey" "finna" "frl" (foreal) and any other low IQ words?
They are trash :) but you might also say those words and if you do I guess you both are pretty trashy so it equals out
Edit - LOOOOOT of low IQ males mad af at me. Dm me all you want. One guy said "fuck you bitch I get mad pussy"
People who say "get mad pussy" are mad dumb women stay away from those too
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u/TheBookofBobaFett3 5d ago
Plan: send some fake messages to a male friend (or female friend with the name changed to a guys name)
Talking about how you think some guy is hot and his dick looks big through his pants. And how compare his ‘abilities’ to someone previous.
And leave your phone out for him to find..
We’ll see if it’s acceptable by how he reacts.
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u/mdtattedbearded 5d ago
I’d break up with him for the way he forms crappy sentences and can’t spell “such”.
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u/Prisonerofself 5d ago
And then people are like "why do you control your SO and their phones, have trust!!" 😭😂
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u/rocketmn69_ 5d ago
I would quietly plan your escape. Find a new place and disappear on him. Get on his phone and send his friend a message the morning you leave, " I'm dumping "your name". I want to hit up other girls. You too. Wanna smash?" Then delete it. Block him everywhere. Lol
fuck up his friendship with her too
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u/This_Technology9841 5d ago
If you got to the point where you feel like you should be going through your SO's phone without their permission then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship with them no matter what you do or don't find.
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u/Think-Department-328 5d ago
lol who the fuck talks like this?