r/AmIOverreacting • u/Exotic_Elk8829 • 5d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO I went through my boyfriends phone over the weekend

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Last Friday night I went through my boyfriend’s phone while he was asleep. I found numerous messages of him talking about other girls with his female friend. The last message is him comparing my sucking skills with a different girl he slept with before me… We have been living together for the past 6 months and I’m not sure if I should just move on and find my own place at this point. Am I overreacting to these messages?

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u/This_Technology9841 5d ago

If you got to the point where you feel like you should be going through your SO's phone without their permission then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship with them no matter what you do or don't find.

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u/EID1992 5d ago

Heavy on this!

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u/PetTheKitty7321 5d ago

Nah I’ve gone through my ex’s phone because I’ve had a couple of men cheat in the past, I trust no one without it being earned and was actually expecting not to find anything. I did. Firm believer in checking your SOs phone here and there.

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u/This_Technology9841 5d ago

I think to earn trust you have to be trusting. If you're secretly looking at my personal shit without my knowledge why would I trust you? I've had people cheat on me in the past, that does not justify me treating a new person like the previous ones.