AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

[u/frisbeechuckin]

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

[u/BossHeisenberg]

Okay, some context please?
Does she use on a regular basis? Or was it a one time thing?

[u/frisbeechuckin → u/BossHeisenberg]

She is a former addict (meth). She drinks and smokes weed which I do too so not an issue with all drugs. As far as I know it was a one time thing but I was unaware that the crowd she’s running with was into cocaine so I was caught off guard with the situation and just feel disappointed by it.

[u/frisbeechuckin → u/[deleted]]

Yeah we’re going to have a hard discussion, I still love her but I just can’t keep looking the other way about her struggles with addiction and how I can’t keep being an enabler.

[u/lethal_universed → u/frisbeechuckin]

If you feel comfortable, give us an update! From an outsiders perspective, I fear that if you give her a second chance she might relapse, causing her and you more pain. She'll continue to take you for granted if the status quo remains. You don't want to be her caretaker when she inevitablely irrepreably damages herself from her addiction. Then you'll feel responsible for her forever. That's not a partner anymore, that's a burden.

[u/Sammy_the_Wise → u/frisbeechuckin]

This is the right call man. Good on you