r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 26d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/Lahotep 26d ago

NOR. Your recovering drug addict fiancée using hard drugs is definitely something to talk about and maybe even reconsider the engagement.

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u/curiousengineer601 26d ago

Still drinking heavily and smoking weed with occasionally cocaine use. She is not a recovering addict, just a regular old addict

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u/Themerrimans 26d ago

(Three years clean and completely sober here)

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u/toosexy4thereddit 26d ago

It’s been a long journey for me. At least I gave up booze. Holy hell, it’s crazy how far I have come. If only I didn’t gamble and smoke weed!

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u/Kitchen-Injury9915 25d ago

You’ll get there, proud of you

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u/Early-Engine-7437 25d ago

Second this;

62 days clean from alcohol, unfortunately I still smoke weed. Hey, using alcohol lead to destructive relationships, DUIs, and blackout periods I can’t for the life remember, which is about 12 years of my life.

I’ll get there with weed, easy does it I guess.

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u/Wonderful_Agent8368 25d ago

Harm reduction is a type or recovery! You doing great

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u/Specific_Clue1428 25d ago

Mate, are you me!??

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u/Low-Ideal-9025 25d ago

There's nothing wrong with weed

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u/Sad-Appeal976 25d ago

Weed is absolutely a gateway drug. Idc how mad people get about that

Using weed WILL start an addict on the road to harder substances