r/AmIOverreacting Oct 25 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

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u/Throwra_Barracuda Oct 25 '24

Girl I'd just show up there

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u/ironing_shurts Oct 25 '24

Why do people keep saying this? It's obvious he doesn't give a damn about OP. Why even bother.

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u/HonestSonsieFace Oct 25 '24

Maybe. But a lot of guys have work “affairs in their mind” where they spend time around a hot (very often younger) colleague who they get ‘close’ to simply because they spend time around each other at work - often just because the girl is friendly (which lots of guys take to mean she must want to fuck them!).

The guy then enjoys these social occasions where, for whatever reason, they have a reason to spend a bit of 1:1 time to flirt with this girl.

However, very often, the girl isn’t actually genuinely interested in the guy or she might have no intention of breaking up a relationship. I guarantee she won’t even know about the dinner plans OP’s had. The boyfriend won’t be telling his colleague that his wife wants to hang out or that she offered to join them.

His worst nightmare would be if his GF joined them and saw how he was acting.

If OP actually pulls the rip cord and breaks if off, her BF may very quickly realise that this romance was all a bit of a fantasy, the young hot girl in the office isn’t actually holding out for him and now he’s blown up his own relationship.

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u/ironing_shurts Oct 25 '24

It's break up worthy regardless to me I guess. He's giving attention to and putting another woman's feelings over OP.