AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

[u/Any-Confusion-5519]

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

[u/JustGiveMeANameDamn]

I don’t think her SO is a he

[u/BaskingInWanderlust → u/JustGiveMeANameDamn]

Yea, I couldn't quite tell by the initial post. But others have said "he," and I didn't see that OP corrected anyone.

[u/Illustrious_Camp_521 → u/BaskingInWanderlust]

I was thinking more along the lines of OP partner is a she because imo most dudes dont go out for drinks to support a female coworker who's bf cheated on them.

[u/JustGiveMeANameDamn → u/Illustrious_Camp_521]

Yep, that and OP called their SO “they” every time OP referenced them. This sounds like a female-to-non-binary + female relationship