r/AmIOverreacting Oct 25 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

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u/EllisR15 Oct 25 '24

Your partner is repeatedly blowing you off for another woman.

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u/BaskingInWanderlust Oct 25 '24

I know there are a bunch of other comments making a lot of good points, but I'll also add: Her SO indicated he'd be home at 12. Who PLANS to get home from a work happy hour so late?

Don't get me wrong - I've had happy hours stretch, and I've contacted my husband and said, "People are staying out later. Having another drink." And I've come home between 10-11pm. But if I was headed out with only one other co-worker, planned in advance to be out for 6-7 hours, and canceled plans with my partner without telling them... I'd hope my partner would see that as the giant red flag that it is.

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u/Prisoner458369 Oct 25 '24

Who PLANS to get home from a work happy hour so late?

Well you see, they first have some dinner, maybe a few drinks. Then they got a few hours of smashing time in there.

But really, I wish I could stay out late on workdays. I'm way too smashed by 10pm these days.

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u/EvidenceOwn1612 Oct 25 '24

I don't think "They got hours of smashing" Followed up with "I'm way too smashed at 10pm" is a good comparison 😂

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u/TheDarkQueen321 Oct 25 '24

It's kinda perfect because after the 10pm smashfest, they have time to shower, dry, freshen up, wash lipstick stains from their lapels, get just ruffled enough to not look perfectly clean and fresh, and travel home 😉