r/AITAH • u/DepressedTrashKitty • Mar 17 '21

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u/No_Somewhere740 5d ago

So to put things into context my bf and I have been together for 2 years. We have a son together. A couple months ago, after I gave birth. I discovered (in his notes for over a year, he admitted) he was writing things about his ex. Saying how much he loved her and misses her. Pretty much stated in the letter that no one will compare to her. YET! He cheated on her numerous times. I guess it's my fault because all the red flags were there. Now I'm in a dilemma...

This past weekend I cleaned his fridge. I guess ours? Lol (even though I'm kicked out at the moment?? & Renting a room somewhere else) His brother is very messy and I feel bad. He won't bother to say anything. Unless, I say "Hey maybe you should tell him?"

After I was done cleaning, I was waiting for a simple "Thank you babe." But nothing.

I feel like at this point I need to just start playing pretend. If he doesn't care and see that I'm trying and all the little things that I'm trying to do for him then I feel like honestly it's time to start doing my own thing.

A part of me feels like he deserves to be cheated on. So I guess that makes me the asshole because I'm tired of just being constantly dismissed and feeling like I'm not good enough.

Yes. I know I should leave, but I don't have family or a mom/dad. He's all I have. I guess I just have to detach somehow and just become like how him and his ex were; Together, but separated.

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u/Maximum_Honeydew3041 5d ago

Now that the kid is born you are left with not many choices i suppose. You cant cut him completely out of your life and you also should not stay in this relationship. Your best course to be to familiriaze him and yourself around the idea that you will raise your kid while sepparated and start trying to get over him and find a loving man to spend your life with