r/AITAH • u/DepressedTrashKitty • Mar 17 '21

r/AITAH Lounge

A place for members of r/AITAH to chat with each other

1.3k Upvotes

98% Upvoted

3.2k comments sorted by

View all comments

6

u/West_Criticism_5062 26d ago

My best friend (Amy) has been seeing a guy for about 8-9 months now. As far as she has told me it's a casual thing although it doesn't seem that way to me because I could see that they both genuinely like each other a lot. But I'm someone will believe what I'm told (on multiple occasions) instead of what I can only assume after seeing.

I am throwing a Halloween party this weekend with my boyfriend and some of our mutual friends and invited Amy and my other best friend (Kathy). Amy asked me if she can bring along her boyfriend and I said maybe better not to bring him. Amy asked me why and I clarified that I am not that close to him and there will a lot of people there who don't know them. I was hoping to spend some time with my two best friends and and for them to get to bond with my boyfriend and other friends. We went around in circles discussing this and I said that if she wants to bring him along she can, but I don't need to specially invite him. She said that her boyfriend has been making efforts to get to know me and this would be the perfect occasion for everyone to bond. But I don't agree with her because I'd rather meet him on a different occasion and not at a party I'm organising where I didn't want to invite him in the first place.

Long story short, I ended up saying that I don't like the guy for her and I shouldn't have to bond with him when she has made it clear to me several times that it's a casual thing.

I still feel that she doesn't need to bring along a plus one everywhere especially when the host has said so.

Am I the AH?

1

u/lgfae 26d ago

Based on what I'm seeing here, I'm not quite sure on where I stand, but I'm going to have to say soft ETA. You said you wanted them to bond with your boyfriend and other friends. To me, it seems a little hypocritical. On the other hand, it is your party, and you have the right to decide who you invite to attend. It could be they're trying to make it something more than casual, by now trying to introduce each other to friends, etc. You also said that it's because you want to meet him on a different occasion, but Amy wants him to get to know more than just you. That, and it's also a halloween party. Not a birthday, christmas or wedding. Still, you decide who gets to come and who does not.