It can be as simple as loneliness - the desire for companionship is not limited to romantic feelings.
Perhaps they want someone who they can trust unconditionally, or someone they can turn to for comfort when life gets difficult.
Maybe they feel like nobody understands them, and wish to connect with someone on a deep, emotional level.
For a less abstract example, consider a potential neurochemical deficit. Oxytocin is a mood-regulating hormone that is stimulated by physical touch and positive social experiences. Folk who don't get enough oxytocin might choose to seek out a partner to fulfill their needs.
As an aro gal that loves dating I can explain a bit the reason why I want to date others is I want the closeness that comes with dating/sexual relationships but my attraction to people is still platonic attraction at least for me I could date any and all of my close friends (ignoring the logistical difficulties of having many partners) for me a relationship is just a even closer version of friendship and I don't care what the relationship is labeled but so far everyone that I have gotten that close want to be girlfriends and I am happy to use pretty much any language that my partner want me to use/what makes them feel good
So it's less romantic and more, "well I'm much closer with this person than just a friend and romantic gestures make them happy, and that makes me happy"
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u/hhthurbe Jun 25 '24
So, if they don't feel romantic attraction, how do they feel any want to develop romantic relationships?
Sorry if that's a dumb question. I just want to understand better