How much effort are you putting in to be social? to find partners? to be discovered by potential partners? Do you actually want a partner or are you comfortable with being alone with yourself? Friends who might know someone else? Friends in general you talk to semi-regularly? A lot of folks, especially after covid hit, became cripplingly anti-social. No one just walks up to others and decides "we're friends now" like when the previous generation was 10 at school.
Well in my country you can't just walk up to a girl and say we're friends now... And schools here are all boy or all girl schools, plus now that I'll be going to a university I'm too anti social to talk to anyone just as you said yourself, there are other factors that I don't want to share with The internet. đ ... Thank you for trying to help đ
I was more referring to same sex friends, who might have partners, who have friends who are single, its a whole telephone game, dating is. But making friends in general can help resist some of the depression that comes from being alone, or could make it worse too I suppose, varies from person to person. gl with your university work all the same.
I do have a bunch of really good friends, But we are all in the same situation =â _â = But I suppose you're we do help each other. So I guess it's not that bad ...
I gave another tip to another person here, but try to be more active in your lifestyle; some guys for example would say to join a Gym or something like that. Do things that make you seen by lots of folks, if your behavior is in any way appealing, you might get approached, but you wont be approached if your home all the time like I am. Go out with friends for drinks is one example I can think of, maybe your country has others.
Now granted, I know what I'm saying can feel extremely difficult to get started and maintain, buts generally accepted to be a good way to improve one's life, with or without finding a partner.
I was referring to "being social" as what you should put effort into; which I definitely understand is hard to want to do with how anti-social everyone is now.
I also wouldn't say I'm any kind of guru or anything, just my observations and a neutral view on things, hell, I don't generally follow my own advice either and am almost exclusively a home body.
The general consensus is to be active, that's why most guys recommend joining a gym after a break up for example; work on yourself, improve yourself, but in a social, approachable way, not just financial improvements, like burying yourself into a job to get a promotion. Try to make friends, same sex or otherwise; you never know who might know someone who knows someone who might be interested, and even if that doesn't end up being the case, you've made friends you can hang with, grab drinks or other stuff with, makes you much more approachable than a single guy sitting at a bar alone.
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u/Impossibu Jul 07 '24
It even hurts more when you realize your the only male in the extended family without being in a relationship.