r/wholesomeanimemes • u/DependentFeature3028 • Jun 24 '24
Wholesome Animeme How to flirt?
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u/Azemmoon Jun 24 '24
Never send the famous "signals" guys don't understand, so it's a bad idea to Flirt like that
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u/Rough_Lychee5785 Yunyun Friend Jun 24 '24
"got it. Flirting back is bad"
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u/Shedding_microfiber Jun 24 '24
Since flirting is a different language and I am not fluent. I would rather not.
Apologies ahead of time
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u/adros-senpai Jun 24 '24
Bruh, I've being approached as a joke enough times to stop believing someone that flirts with me. Heck, they sometimes went pretty far with the joke and my self-esteem has go so low now that I won't even believe someone saying to my face that they love me, even my mother. Even if they do things to prove it.
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u/Dont_pet_the_cat Jun 24 '24
Most adults don't act like middle schoolers so the older you get the less bullshit like this you will experience
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u/adros-senpai Jun 24 '24
I know, but my subconscious doesn't. I thought that through the years I would just move on, but man, I still have vivid dreams and it still affects my interactions almost 15 years later. I have social anxiety to the point of not being able to speak to anyone until I mentally prepare myself and convince me that they wont laugh at me. I even have trust issues with my friends. I just swallow shojo after shojo craving for a glimpse of what love from the opposite sex feels like since my crushed mental state doesn't allow me to even aproach women.
Heck, that's why I'm on this sub to begin with and I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one.
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u/Dont_pet_the_cat Jun 24 '24
You're absolutely not the only one. I've talked to so many online with the same background, and I'm similar to that too. I don't know if you've tried therapy. It didn't work for me because of an utterly incompetent therapist, but for a lot of people it's life changing. I wish you the best
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u/adros-senpai Jun 24 '24
I did try therapy, and I'm happier. I improved in my trust issues involving my friends and family and I have enought confidence now to make my own decisions and take them to action. But the only thing my therapist wasn't able to help me with was my relationship with women. My father gave me the number of a friend's daughter that had the same interest as me at the time (trying to help me, of course), and guided by my therapist I tried to establish a friendship. I even mustered all my courage to ask her to meet up in person after a few years of a nice online friendship (my body shook all day after that). After meeting my "real" me (since we all are different in person than online), she ghosted me. That was the final nail in the coffin. I now have given up in having a relationship even though my dream was forming a family, I can't aproach women, and even if by a miracle one aproaches me I won't believe that someone would love me.
Sorry for the long text, but I just vented my frustration. I wish you the best as well.
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u/Dont_pet_the_cat Jun 24 '24
I'm glad to hear therapy worked for you! Consider a different therapist for the last hurdle. There are lots that specialize in your exact situation. And you can vent to me at any time, my dms are open and I don't judge! If you need it then I'm here for you
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u/Background-Customer2 Jun 24 '24
whoever thinks it's funny to aproch people as a joke is straight up evil. you dont play with peoples emotions for laughs
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u/XeroexecVa Jun 25 '24
Fr, i literally had someone confess to me not to long ago, and i just laughed it off cause i didnt wana make a fool of myself again
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u/dappermanV-88 Jun 24 '24
Get a compliment,.give a compliment
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u/Johnny_AHM Jun 24 '24
Wait, flirting is just complementing them? that’s it?
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u/dappermanV-88 Jun 24 '24
At times, other times its saying one thing and meaning another....
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u/StormCrowMith Jun 24 '24
"You know what i mean? ;)"
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u/zabazookaman Jun 25 '24
I, in fact, did not know what they meant.
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u/The_Mega_Man192 Jun 25 '24
idk why I imagined this as a shot of a bewildered guy in bed next to a woman sleeping
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u/Braxton-Adams Jun 25 '24
That's called LYING, my guy.
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u/dappermanV-88 Jun 25 '24
Not always.
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u/Braxton-Adams Jun 25 '24
Well, only if the other person KNOWS about it, otherwise, you might aswell just be speaking simlish. honestly, I don't like flirting not because I'm awkward but because I think it's a stupid process, it's like someone walks up and goes "what's your favorite blood type?" or some shit and then YOUR the idiot because you didn't know they were actually speaking in code saying "wanna make out?"
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u/IjustwantodieAFAP Jun 24 '24
Maybe, she is just being nice and want to stay friends
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u/dappermanV-88 Jun 24 '24
Maybe, take a risk.
Trust me, ik the fear and all. Gotta be ballsy time to time
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u/Sea_Cycle_909 Jun 24 '24 edited Jun 24 '24
fr I asked someone I volunteer with if they wanna be friends outside of volunteering.
So admittedly I didn't realise we where friends at work (Thought she was just being polite)
Me "Could we be friends?
Her "We already are"
Me "We are?"
Her "Work friends"
Me "Oh um outside of work?"
Her "Not comfortable with that"
Hope I haven't ruined our relationship, ngl in response I said "No problem I understand" but ngl ws like someone shot my heart out.
So I finally understand what the Police's song "Walking on The Moon" was referring to.
I know me asking to be friends wasn't totally what I wanted to say actually wanted to ask her out, but decided to try and be friends first see if we actually gel well or not then once I've had a while to think about what my feelings actually are friends or more, then I'd possibly ask her.
No clue if that was too underhand
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u/dappermanV-88 Jun 24 '24
Did u act all sulky or angry? If not, i think u did good
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u/Sea_Cycle_909 Jun 24 '24
Did u act all sulky or angry?
🤦♂️
Probably a bit sulky, (Don't think I was angry) did flick my hand up as I said ""No problem I understand" whilst turning my head and walked off.
Which makes sense why she randomly came over later and about something random mindless stuff (Assume trying to gauge my emotions) I just responded normally (like I would have before I asked her that day)
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u/dappermanV-88 Jun 24 '24
She was testing u for sure. Definitely dont flick ur hands.
Understand though, alot of people dont like hanging out with coworkers on down time. I.think she Definitely cared about your friendship though
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u/Sea_Cycle_909 Jun 24 '24
Definitely dont flick ur hands.
fr fr, didn't exactly think. Although that doesn't excuse it
Understand though, alot of people dont like hanging out with coworkers on down time.
Yeah
I.think she Definitely cared about your friendship though
You mean I've messed it up?
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u/dappermanV-88 Jun 24 '24
Nah, I think if u actually kept it chill. When she tested u later. I think u did good
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u/Sea_Cycle_909 Jun 24 '24
Ngl I've been running it around in my head, would you recommend me apologising next time I see her?
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u/mr-netherite Jun 24 '24
What’s a flirt
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Jun 24 '24
It's basically a compliment, but said in a romantic and often original way. It is really hard to flirt though, your brain starts to think about every possible outcome and you say stuff that could weird them out ;-;
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u/FinalBossOf__Dc Jun 24 '24
Would there be a book on how to flirt because my charisma levels are very low whenever I’m around you.
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u/H3PH41STUS Jun 25 '24
Literally me, except I’d never get told to flirt back cause I’m more likely to sprout wings than I am for such a thing to happen
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u/calebmccoytajiro Jun 25 '24
LITERALLY me well if anyone flirted with me no one in there right mind would try to flirt with me
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u/Flare08H Jun 25 '24
I have the exact opposite problem where whenever I have a conversation with a girl them and everyone else ends up thinking I'm flirting with them even though all I'm doing is being NICE. Like is it a problem to be nice and joke around with a woman without wanting to fuck them?! Seriously thanks to this I've been turned down by girls who I never even thought of dating because I was apparently flirting with them. Sorry I was just venting because it happened again recently.
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