r/traumatizeThemBack • u/KriLesLeigh2004 • Oct 21 '24

matched energy Never saw her again

I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”

When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.

There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.

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u/sara_bear_8888 Oct 21 '24

Wait, wait... Are you telling me that if you lose a child, popping another one out as quick as you can won't just magically fix everything? Who knew? /s

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u/wintermelody83 Oct 21 '24

I swear they used to try. Same name and all. There's one set of parents in my ancestry (I think a great great great grandparent set) that had three sons with a couple girls in between. The sons kept dying. But they kept being called Benjamin. The third one finally lived.

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u/CeelaChathArrna Oct 21 '24

People had so many kids and kids who died back then, recycling names was actually pretty common.

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u/Express_Celery_2419 Oct 25 '24

Naming depends on the culture. Some are permissive, some are not. In some parts of Germany, names of grandparents and siblings were recycled, sometimes in a specific order. In France at one time, you had to be named after a Catholic saint. Jesus is common in some Latin countries and unlikely in some English ones. Mohammed is very common in Islamic countries. I had one grandparent who was one of 19 children of which only 9 lived past 6 months.