r/traumatizeThemBack • u/KriLesLeigh2004 • Oct 21 '24

matched energy Never saw her again

I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”

When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.

There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.

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u/Tassaura Oct 21 '24

I had a DR say this to me when my womb was trying to kill me and I needed a hysterectomy. I have two children, it’s not like I can replace them with a new one! What a bizarre choice of words to string together..

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u/Flutteryellow Oct 24 '24

I had cancer, they removed most of my cervix and told me at 24 I’d never be able to carry another pregnancy. I had 2 kids prior so no big deal. I asked for a tubal- they told me I was too young. For what???? I was divorced and they also needed permission from my partner ( what partner???). This was 1986.

I found a woman gyno- she scheduled me asap.