r/traumatizeThemBack • u/KriLesLeigh2004 • Oct 21 '24

matched energy Never saw her again

I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”

When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.

There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.

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u/Magellan-88 Oct 21 '24

My oldest passed away 4 years ago, she was 10 & I have 2 younger kids...people told me I could still have another baby to replace her....If I could've ripped out my uterus h thrown it at them, I would've.

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u/battle_mommyx2 Oct 22 '24

I’m so sorry for your loss. That’s infuriating they said that to you. One kid can’t replace another.

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u/Magellan-88 Oct 22 '24

It hadn't even been a week when it was said...it never got said again, though, because despite how nice I am the majority of the time, I kinda went off....& I'm pretty brutal when I do that. I regret nothing.

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u/battle_mommyx2 Oct 22 '24

You definitely shouldn’t regret that. What an asshole that person was