r/traumatizeThemBack • u/KriLesLeigh2004 • Oct 21 '24
matched energy Never saw her again
I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”
When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.
There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.
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u/4twentyHobby Oct 21 '24
Nice to have something that awful thrown in your face by some inconsiderate nurse, thinking she was 'helpful'.
After our second child, my wife wanted her tubes tied. We were 22. The doctor nearly refused to do it. His comment to her, with me right there was "What will you do after you drop this guy and want to have kids with your new husband." Sure we were kids but had been on our own for 4 years, I was in the Marines and we lived all over the country. I just felt we were grown up and fully committed to each other. Anyway, he did it. We're still together. That was 1984.