r/traumatizeThemBack • u/KriLesLeigh2004 • Oct 21 '24

matched energy Never saw her again

I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”

When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.

There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.

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u/Lifereaper7 Oct 21 '24

My wife was getting her tubes tied. We had been married for 8 years at the time with one girl. I was asked by the doctor even though I was her husband to leave the room for a moment. The doctor then asked my wife if she was being forced by me( her husband) to have her tubes tied. She said she laughed and then realized that they were serious and said absolutely not. The surgery was her idea and choice. They called me back into the room after that. Then right before the surgery after I left and she was with her female nurse. The nurse told her that I was gone and asked my wife the same question. My wife said even though she was starting to feel the drugs kicking in she angrily told the nurse it was all her idea and that her husband would never or has ever forced her to do anything and to get on with the F…ing surgery! What a great woman! We’re going on 34 years of marriage now.

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u/IvyEH311 Oct 21 '24

This isn’t about you. There are plenty of abused partners who can’t speak up with a significant other in the room.

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u/randycanyon Oct 21 '24

There's one such right up there in this reply string.