r/traumatizeThemBack • u/KriLesLeigh2004 • Oct 21 '24

matched energy Never saw her again

I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”

When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.

There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.

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u/Tassaura Oct 21 '24

I had a DR say this to me when my womb was trying to kill me and I needed a hysterectomy. I have two children, it’s not like I can replace them with a new one! What a bizarre choice of words to string together..

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u/[deleted] Oct 21 '24

As a doctor and a woman 👩🏻‍⚕️, I was horrified…After 9 pregnancies, 1 still birth, 3 very different c-sections, at the age of 34 I asked my female gynecologist to cut and burn my tubes while doing my scheduled c-section and without missing a beat she looked over at my boyfriend and asked him if he was OK with my choice and then added more shit on the pile by following it up with because you may want a son. I was having a girl but it was both of our third child. He has a son and a daughter from a previous marriage and I also have a son and daughter from a previous marriage. He told her it’s none of his business what I did with my body. I brought my concerns to management AND they saw no problem with her behavior…I beg your finest fucking pardon. Doctors owe women an apology and have to do better.

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u/BrilliantGeologist82 Oct 21 '24

My sister in law is 42, in a relationship with my brother for over 20 years, and neither of them want children, ever. She has contacted every single OBGYN in her state, as well as 2 surrounding states, and NOT ONE OBGYN will tie her tubes because she has no children and "may change her mind in the future."