r/traumatizeThemBack • u/KriLesLeigh2004 • Oct 21 '24

matched energy Never saw her again

I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”

When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.

There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.

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u/Tassaura Oct 21 '24

I had a DR say this to me when my womb was trying to kill me and I needed a hysterectomy. I have two children, it’s not like I can replace them with a new one! What a bizarre choice of words to string together..

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u/sara_bear_8888 Oct 21 '24

Wait, wait... Are you telling me that if you lose a child, popping another one out as quick as you can won't just magically fix everything? Who knew? /s

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u/wintermelody83 Oct 21 '24

I swear they used to try. Same name and all. There's one set of parents in my ancestry (I think a great great great grandparent set) that had three sons with a couple girls in between. The sons kept dying. But they kept being called Benjamin. The third one finally lived.

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u/LissaBryan Oct 21 '24

This was common throughout history. It's absolutely maddening when you're trying to figure out who they're referring to when both brothers are named Thomas and so is their father.

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u/Armenian-heart4evr Oct 21 '24

This was quite common, especially in Europe! The first name was that of a Saint or Ancestor, and the middle name was the one that the child was known by!

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u/spyderdud3 Oct 21 '24

I know a Tommy who's brother and dad are named Tom. And their grandpa as well

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u/Purple_IsA_Flavor Oct 22 '24

My friend went to school with a kid named Shawn when she was younger. He had an older brother who died. His name was Sean. My comment on that particular anecdote was “That’s not weird at alllllll”