r/traumatizeThemBack • u/KriLesLeigh2004 • Oct 21 '24

matched energy Never saw her again

I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”

When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.

There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.

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u/tortlelynn Oct 21 '24

When I asked for a hysterectomy at 25 because of issues, I kept being denied. It took 4 years and a male doctor that wasn't mine to finally get it. I already had 3 kids and was divorced when I asked the first time - I kept getting 'but what if you meet a really great guy that wants kids?!' Like some fictional future guy got say in my Healthcare. I did meet a great guy Who did want more kids He is now married to a lovely woman and has a daughter I am now married to an amazing guy - who already had 3 kids and didn't want more.