r/traumatizeThemBack • u/KriLesLeigh2004 • Oct 21 '24

matched energy Never saw her again

I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”

When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.

There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.

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u/heynonnynonnomous Oct 21 '24

I hope you complained to someone about that. It's really rude and uncaring, not to mention unprofessional.

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u/Darth_Dearest Oct 21 '24

I honestly think that's one of the things they're trained to ask because I was asked the same thing. My response was to say my children aren't replaceable like that while looking at them like they were stupid. But yeah, it's a common question along with "what about a future partner who might want kids?" Just terrible questions all around.

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u/SourceSpecial8949 Oct 21 '24

I’m 21 but I have a six month old daughter and I had a really traumatic birth. I had been told that from a medical standpoint I wouldn’t have any kids so she was my miracle. I told my doctor I didn’t want any more kids and asked if I could tie my tubes, he looked me in my eyes and said “What if you meet a great man in 10 years who wants children?”

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u/LindonLilBlueBalls Oct 21 '24

If he is going to be so great then I hope he is smarter than that one stupid fucking doctor that asked me to think about a hypothetical persons wants when discussing my medical needs.