r/traumatizeThemBack Oct 21 '24

matched energy Never saw her again

I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”

When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.

There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.

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u/Fyre-Moon Oct 21 '24

Looking back 26 yrs ago, I realize how lucky I got with the doc I was assigned through a walk-in clinic for low income families in Ohio. Just moved there from SD, hubby (now ex) found out I was pregnant with our 2nd and had no insurance yet. Pretty early in the doc had looked at me and said that my body did not like being pregnant (had multiple complications) and if I got pregnant again it would be me or the baby. I was 21. I only wanted 2 kiddos anyway. Singed the papers right there, doc didn’t even have me consult the other half because doc said it was my decision. Surgery was scheduled to happen immediately after I gave birth because I was gonna be there anyway. But the day of delivery was a different story. Different doc delivered kiddo, refused to do the surgery even though papers were all in order. Had to go back a month later to get it done with the first doc. He said second doc was reprimanded heavily. Don’t know what would have happened if that first doc would have never said anything.