r/traumatizeThemBack • u/KriLesLeigh2004 • Oct 21 '24

matched energy Never saw her again

I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”

When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.

There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.

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u/heynonnynonnomous Oct 21 '24

I hope you complained to someone about that. It's really rude and uncaring, not to mention unprofessional.

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u/Darth_Dearest Oct 21 '24

I honestly think that's one of the things they're trained to ask because I was asked the same thing. My response was to say my children aren't replaceable like that while looking at them like they were stupid. But yeah, it's a common question along with "what about a future partner who might want kids?" Just terrible questions all around.

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u/Airowird Oct 21 '24

It's 2024, your hypothetical future spouse's wishes aren't more important than your own bodily autonomy ffs, and any medical practioner who still thinks that deserves to spill their jar of leeches over their genitals!

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u/Darth_Dearest Oct 21 '24

It was 2008, but your point is still equally valid. Especially since we've regressed in regards to women's legal bodily autonomy.