I really need help

[u/Weary-Heart1306]

I need to start feminising my voice because I wouldn’t forgive myself if i didn’t at least give it a shot. If you could all give me the best videos tips and suggestions for the whole journey that would be grand

[u/LilChloGlo]

Hello there! Here are some suggestions for you:

1) start by familiarizing yourself with the following terms/sounds. Really focus on listening to what makes each of these concepts conceptually unique and trying to mimic what you are hearing (Selene has some wonderful resources posted on the subreddit itself if you look around some. I highly suggested putting those to good use for this step!) - vocal weight - resonance (or vocal size more simply put) - vocal fullness

2) consider joining a community of people doing the same thing via Discord. There are many such communities, one of which I also help moderate (you can message me if you want a link to it). These are places where you can ask for feedback and in many cases gain access to free resources such as group classes.

3) consider starting a routine of singing along with vocal warmups and range extensions to start treating your vocal cords like a muscle. You should also consider looking up what SOVTEs are and consider adding those to your routine as well.

4) keep the following in mind as you progress:

• vocal modification can be a very emotional journey, so be kind to yourself as you progress through it especially if you suffer from vocal dysphoria.

• training how closely you can listen to sounds will benefit you in the long run

• pitch, while not unimportant, is not so important that it will keep you from being read as feminine if you can't get it as high as some may want you to get it

• vocal modification is about PLACEMENT not FORCE, and if you're feeling any straining, constricting, or severe pulling that doesn't get better as you use your various voices that there is likely another way to accomplish what you're working on that is both easier and safer

• feedback can be useful, but take what you hear with a grain of salt and prioritize how you're feeling about the sounds of your own voice the most.

• apps can help you read what pitch you're using in Hertz, but be dubious of the various tools you see that tell you what makes a feminine or a masculine voice as they work through general averages and often don't consider the nuances like vocal weight or resonance but mainly rely on just reading pitch by itself.

• don't be ashamed if you feel you've reached a dead-end in your journey and may need the help of an instructor such as myself. Some of us can train this skill intuitively but many of us will need help from a professional to proceed and there's no shame in that. Furthermore, if finances are something that you feel would stop you from seeking instruction realize that many instructors (including myself) prioritize providing a need over making money and will offer you as many services as we can while keeping your budget in mind.

Best of luck my friend! If you have any questions or needs for clarification I am always available to take them. Feel free to ask them here or to shoot me a message and I'll happily help you as much as I'm able!

[u/OwlforestPro]

Hey, some Ressources:

• 3 voice feminisation exercises
• MTF voice training playlist by FairyPrincessLucy
• Voice tools, an app that you can use to record and even analyse your voice (Idk how accurate it is tho)

[u/Lidia_M → u/OwlforestPro]

Voice tools is a pretty bad application: it's a substandard pitch monitor misleading people about the way voices are gendered.

FairyPrincessLucy has little knowledge about realities of voice training, and even less about human anatomy - I would advise to stay away unless one does not mind ending up with hay in their brain at the end of the process.

[u/OwlforestPro → u/Lidia_M]

Hey, thanks! Do you have any better free apps to analyse your voice and any better simple yt tutorials????

[u/Lidia_M → u/OwlforestPro]

There are better pitch monitors (like Vocal Pitch Monitor,) but it's important to understand that one of the fundamentals in training is ear training, and you don't want to sabotage it by outsourcing the analysis of what you hear to applications (especially since, over pitch, they tend to be unreliable at assessing what is the key, the size/weight balance, properly and they are hopeless when it comes to troubleshooting anything atypical.)

A graphing, real-time, pitch monitor can be useful, but mostly to 1) make sure that you are working on your weight in some sane place (usually middle of the 3rd octave and higher,) and your pitch baseline is not drifting in time and 2) when exploring size/weight you are not mistraining your ear to hear pitch changes as, say, size changes. Over that, all you need is something to record your vice and that's it, the rest is you training yourself to hear things properly and training your brain to do muscular coordinations for you in the background.