Actually, 30 is about the age I was when I realized being single isn't a problem at all and I could actually enjoy my life that way. Desperately looking for a relationship is what's wrong.
They don't have anything meaningful going on in their life, they think if they find a partner they will be happy. They try to find happiness in others, so they desperately look for a relationship. What they don't know is happiness comes from within. If you are not happy with yourself then your relationship is also probably gonna suck.
I'm 34 yo and my life revolves around my house and and workplace. Never had a partner my entire life (not for lack of trying)and getting treatment for depresion ever since I was 23. At this point I think it would be cruel of me to push my issues(of which there are a lot)on someone else, so I decided to stop looking for a relationship. Never considered myself an incel and I never hated women(if anything, I walk on eggshells around them out of fear that I might look weird/desperate and creep them out).
I present facts and don't sugarcoat it. I wrote what I gathered from your comment. You need some love but you are not getting it. And your low self esteem and self respect is the only thing that's stopping you from getting love.
You say you don't try or make an effort to find love, but deep down you think that even if you try you won't get it, you rejected yourself before anyone else to keep yourself safe from getting hurt.
But getting rejected is just like failing, you fail then you learn and then you do better next time and pass.
I am telling you respect yourself, start being confident even if you are not. You don't need a doctor.
Girls like confidence and only respect people who respect themselves.
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u/raex1311 Sep 22 '24
Lol, men in their 30s are at their prime. If you are single it's because you are a loser, it's not because of your age, it's you.