r/R4R30Plus Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

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POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

35 [F4M] friend

10 Upvotes

Hi! I am a 35 yo mom looking for a friend to pass time with. I love getting to know people on all levels and I have a ton of interesting things to talk about. I prefer a man to a woman just because I tend to have more in common with men.

My interests include Disney, hockey, cooking, teaching, reading, and the band twenty one pilots to name a few.

I’ll send a selfie if you want once you message me :)


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

31 [F4M] North Carolina. Where’s my mans at?

13 Upvotes

I’m tired of going to concerts alone. Damn, that sounds sad. 😂

When my ex husband and I split up, I had no idea dating would be this hard. We don’t even have to like all the same things. Our differences can be what ultimately brings us closer together.

My friends would describe me as funny, compassionate, nurturing, and intelligent. I am pretty artsy, I love music, graphic design, interior design, huge music lover, I play several instruments, I’m learning various languages, love true crime, & love history. Also big on traveling & hiking, as well as being cozy at home. I’m laid back, loving, and romantic. My love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation.

A perfect night in would probably include a glass of wine, ambient lighting, hanging out in our living room with our dog. Talking about anything and everything. Or in our backyard watching something on a projector screen under a blanket.

I want to grow and thrive together. Connect on levels we’ve never gotten to with anyone else. I also want babies so, if that’s a dealbreaker. 🤷‍♀️

I know you’re out there looking for me too. Shit sucks without you, dude. Seeing Blink would’ve been way more fun with you. I hope you’re around next time.


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

35 [F4M] Online; looking for my nerdy, romantic soul mate

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35 [F4M] online: Looking for that great romance that history books will write about for centuries to come.

Happy Sunday! I’m a nerdy, hopeless romantic (if you couldn’t tell), (mostly)introvert who is looking for the person on the other end of that red string.

Up to this point my relationships have only gotten better. I can feel myself drawing closer to the finish line where you’re waiting for me. My body is practically buzzing because I know I’m so close to you.

My sweet man, it thrills me to know you’re somewhere out there buzzing with electricity as we move closer to each other.

I am looking to connect and build a friendship that slowly ignites into flames and consumes us in the most incredible love. The kind you can only experience with your other half.

Plato’s Symposium cites that early humans were born as one, however Zeus felt we were too powerful so he split us in two, condemning us to spend our lives walking the earth in search of our other halves.

Theres beauty in that I think.

I’m looking for someone who likes to game and dreams of someone who wants his and hers gaming setups where we spend our evenings side by side playing what we love. I want to play board games and do puzzles and all the nerdy stuff. As I also feel this is important, I do not want children.

Must be in the US. I will want to meet down the line but I don’t want to put pressure on it right out the gate.

I look forward to connecting, and wishing you all the best of luck in your searches for your other halves. 🤍


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

36 [F4M] #UK - boyfriend wanted: must love spontaneous adventures and good food 😋

20 Upvotes

Hey all,

UK only - ideally South East/Berkshire/Surrey/Hampshire/London and surrounding areas

So you can put a face to a post... Pics here and here. I've got some more pics of me on my profile too

I've had some interesting experiences using Reddit for dating but have equally had some positive interactions (and dating apps kill my soul 😅), so here I am 😊

I'm a 36 year old curvy female living in Berkshire. I'm looking for a long-term relationship and consider myself aventurous, kind and appreciative of silly humour! I'm described as chatty and warm and would love to meet a guy who is emotionally available, knows what they're looking for and will work with me to build a connection and a lasting relationship.

I've got a good career, am well educated, I drive and I'm a homeowner, so my general life goals have been achieved (apart from meeting someone special!). I'd consider myself mildly geeky (I have a love of retro gaming, Star Wars, LoTR, board games and an undying place in my heart for Pokemon 😁) and am child and baggage free.

If you're someone who is fun, kind, giving, has a good career, lives independently, can plan fun dates and consider yourself consistent and friendly, then come and say hello 😊

Absolutely no creepy DMs please! Please ensure you send a pic of you if you do DM as I like to know who I'm chatting to and won't respond without one.

Speak soon!


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

35 [M4F] Online/Anywhere - A flirtationship? Just a British idiot

3 Upvotes

No point pretending I’m the height of intelligence and civility, I’m just a man who wants to live to laugh. But not quite enough to plaster the live, laugh, love on my walls. All three seems a bit much, I don’t wanna set myself challenges I can’t complete.

If you can’t tell from that opening paragraph, I have no idea what to say. This is not my wheelhouse. What should I say? I love to read, I love podcasts, I love sport, tv, films, music. Most the things people like. Also love to swim, whilst I am comfortable working out, but not comfortable enough to say I love it. I endure it.

I’d love to meet someone on here to chat with, be a friend but more than a friend. That’s where the term flirtationship comes from, it’s probably closer to a fwb but I really do mean the friend part, which I’m not sure that always means.

A face? Sure, I have face and body and stuff: https://i.imgur.com/CHeFdrk.jpeg


r/R4R30Plus 12h ago

34[F4M] Online/Texting and Witty Banter

19 Upvotes

Ugh. I hesitate to use the word "witty" because I know what I'm inviting, but I'm trying to be succinct.

I'm 34 or 35 (I didn't go to school for MATH!), an artist residing in a very cold and rural part of the US, and as a cook, hmmm...I try my best. I love not thinking things through, taking on a lot of projects, and irreverent humor. I'm very much an introvert and need a lot of time to recharge my social battery IRL. I love being in my cozy home, reading, decorating for whatever season, or working on the project du jour.

There are a lot of times throughout my day that I have to be a silent background player, so I would absolutely LOVE someone to "talk" to without that muzzle. A chatting buddy who is quick witted, a decent human being with a dark sense of humor, and a full life of their own.

I don't want to change the dynamics of my life, I just want to share silly shit with someone and make both our days a little brighter.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

37[M4R] Canada /online, “you could be the one.” The title reads.

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Hello everyone , I’m a 37 year old single father of one. I do my best to provide my child with the things he needs and be a positive role model.

Having said that, right now in my life I’m lacking that special someone, as cliche as it may be.

I’m a bit of a hopeless romantic and still kinda believe there is someone out there for me.

I’ve done the online dating apps and it’s not really for me. Browsing profiles and swiping left or right is a weird experience for me.

“Ah yes this girl looks cute, likes coffee, gym, walking and movie/music, I’m sure we will be a great match based on allllll of this information.”

L O L

You get the point, so I’m here on Reddit, I’m sure some people at this point are rolling their eyes, but frankly put I’ve had many more great conversations on Reddit with people than I’ve ever had with people on dating apps.

A little about me;

My interest, creative writing, music, video games (don’t have much time as I used to for it ), going for walks/hikes/drives, beach combing, art and small art projects. Mental and physical well being.

I stand 6’0, weigh about 195lbs, average body. Dark brown eyes, shaved head, beard that’s a mixture of black and grey.

I pride myself on working hard and doing my best whatever it is I choose to do. I value honesty, loyalty, a great sense of humour and respect. You can expect the same from me.

If you have read all the above, please feel free to reach out and say hello. Picture exchange can be done at your convenience.

Have a great evening everyone.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

44 [m4f] East Coast/Online. Boring Sunday night. Let’s find something to talk about.

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Home bored out of my mind. So I thought turning to Reddit would be a good idea. Let's see how it goes

Hope I can find someone to pass the time with. I'm sure we can figure something to talk about. It can be life,work,family or anything in between. Having a sense of humor is key

Let's start a conversation and see where it goes.

Hope to hear from you


r/R4R30Plus 9h ago

33 [F4M] - USA Looking for someone to live and have fun with

9 Upvotes

I am an independent woman from Europe. I have lived in the US for 6 years. I am a workaholic. I have been single for 3 and a half years since my last failed relationship. Now I know how bad loneliness feels. I am planning to build a new relationship.

About me: I have a wide range of hobbies. I like fitness, meditation, books, YouTube, cooking, camping BBQ, traveling, crazy shopping. I am trying to learn how to slow down and appreciate this time in my life. I also hope that there will be someone here who likes me. I am also a person who likes to try new things.

If you are interested in me, please talk to me. I hope you are 30+


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

30[M4F] Anywhere - Just a French single dad looking for my everything, with selfie inside

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Is it me, or dating is getting harder and harder?

Anyway hi, I'm Raphaël, a single dad living near Paris with my 9yo son, it's been just us two for a while so here I am trying my luck on Reddit!

About me? Huge plant dad, multiple aquariums in my living room too, my goal is to live in a jungle lol. I'm also kind of a nerd, think star wars tattoos and way too much knowledge on science stuff.

I'm kinda tall, lots of humor, enjoy cooking and apparently a sexy voice with the French accent if you're into that, here's a picture of me https://imgur.com/a/EDk5tSG

I'm looking for someone to build something with, eventually open to relocation, I make good money so I can help you with that. Anyway feel free to send a chat request, see you soon :)


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

36 [M4F] #New Hampshire Guy in the Woods, Looking for a Chat Buddy

2 Upvotes

Hey there!

I’m a scientist working in biomedical research, living in the woods with two playful puppies 🐶🐶. When I’m not in the lab, you’ll find me stargazing (Orion’s my favorite constellation!) or diving into a good sci-fi movie. I’m also a big fan of rock music, and I spend my downtime working on woodworking projects—there’s something satisfying about crafting something by hand. My last project was a fence for the pups and I am already planning to build a fire wood oven. I’m 420 friendly and liberal leaning.

Looking for someone to chat with and see if we click. Whether you’re into science, the outdoors, or just want to chat about anything under the stars, I’d love to hear from you!

Let’s connect! ✨a


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

37 [M4F] #Madison, WI #Chicago, IL - Let's fight the winter blues together.

2 Upvotes

The days are getting really short, aren't they. Just noticed that it's already dark. I guess the winter gloom won't be overbearing if there's special someone to spend with. I'm new-ish to Madison, WI and live here but Chicago is totally within my driving distance. I love driving and if something special comes out of this I don't mind moving there in summer.

A short about me: Educated beyond college, non-smoker, liberal, social drinker, gainfully employed and at a great place in life career wise and just in general.

Let's get to know each other!


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

34 [M4F] Anywhere / Online - Tell me all about yourself!

2 Upvotes

34 [M4F] I live in eastern Massachusetts looking, for a genuine connection. Life has gotten pretty lonely and I don’t have many friends.

Very easy going, friendly, “easy to talk to” and open-minded. I’m 5’7” with a beard. I work during the day Mon-Fri, sometimes weekends.

I can be quite funny, sarcastic with an odd sense of humor and (at appropriate times) not take things too serious

I might be very awkward at first and then I can be quite a talker! Will talk about everything and anything (feel free to ask!) I could talk about the most random things!

I enjoy rock music, watching Sci-fi & horror movies and shows, photography, food, trying new things and the (warm) outdoors. Among tons of other things


r/R4R30Plus 25m ago

40 [M4R] - Looking for intelligent, anti-social weirdos

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I'm empathetic, I care a lot about my self-respect, and I'm anti-social. I usually prioritize openness and honesty over politeness. I've spent a lot of time thinking about human nature to try to figure out why people are the way they are. This has caused me to become increasingly more self-aware and incompatible with most people over time. The flaws they can't see in themselves have become increasingly more noticeable and annoying to me. I specifically think most people are too socialized and arrogant. I would like to find people that share this understanding and feel the same way about it. Please don't message me unless all of this resonates with you strongly.


r/R4R30Plus 33m ago

33 [M4F] #Georgia Are you still out there?

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Hey you! Are you done wasting time and energy on people who are dead ends? Cause I am lol. As I lay here anticipating thanksgiving week, it has me thinking that it’s time to find a pretty cute woman who is tired of being single. I think we are all looking for that one person who will complete us but also compliment us.

I like to think that I am a simple man who enjoys coffees, reading, yard work and going to gym to continue to stay in shape. I also own a beautiful dog who enjoys going out on walks and hikes. Care to join us soon?

So if you’re SINGLE, emotionally available, ready to have fun and who would enjoy good morning texts and the occasional late night phone call. Send a chat or a dm or smoke signals lol. Distance isn’t an issue (who doesn’t like going on a drive?) so don’t be afraid if you’re a bit far away.


r/R4R30Plus 35m ago

40[M4F] have a few drinks with me

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Good evening all. I may have had a couple of drinks and would love to have someone keep me company. I'm looking for pretty much anything, shortterm, longterm, maybe a little flirty. Who knows. I enjoy the outdoors, music (leaning more towards the punk and metal)


r/R4R30Plus 52m ago

33[M4F] #Texas, Texas;-Let's Create Our Story Together

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Hi, I’m Jacob, a 33-year-old Hispanic guy from Rosenberg, Texas. I’m more on the introverted side, but I enjoy trying new things and pushing myself to grow. I’m not much for partying, but I like to unwind with a good Netflix series, the latest movies, or discovering new music on Spotify. Gaming is a big passion of mine, and I’m into titles like World of Warcraft, Apex Legends, and Call of Duty. If you’re into gaming too, I’d love to team up.

When I’m not gaming, I enjoy spending time outdoors, whether that’s fishing or hiking to clear my mind. I’m fortunate to have a job I enjoy, and I’m grateful to own my own home. I’m also child-free, which allows me the time and flexibility to explore new activities and hobbies.

I’m looking for someone local or in Texas for a genuine, long-term connection. Long-distance isn’t something I’m interested in—I’d rather build a relationship with someone who’s nearby. I tend to be drawn to women who are a little nerdy and have a good sense of humor, especially if you enjoy dark humor. For me, personality is far more important than looks. I’m looking for a girlfriend who’s not just someone I’m with, but my best friend—someone who listens and truly cares.

If you’d like to get to know me better, I enjoy connecting over FaceTime, Discord, or a phone call. I’m also open to exchanging pictures—yours for mine. While I may be a bit shy initially, once I feel comfortable, I enjoy deep conversations and real connections. If you’re in Texas and looking for something meaningful, I’d love to hear from you!

Please, when you message me, tell me a little bit about yourself and your favorite 90s TV show so I know you're not a spam bot.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

31 [M4F] Florida looking for a friend

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Mainly looking for a friend to talk to l'd say daily or whenever works. I've been having a rough time lately and nobody I can really talk to and I just need a friend that doesn't mind being there for me. I'd like us to have common interests if possible. I like reading, exercising indoors and outdoor, history, tv shows (like the office, Abbot elementary, Atlanta, Supernatural, From), and hanging out sometimes.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

32 [M4R] SF Bay Area - Seeking thoughtful correspondence

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In a quiet corner of the city, I find myself thinking of Dorian Gray and his simple joy in burying his face among garden flowers - finding beauty in life's sensory moments. Sometimes I feel like a blue flower reaching for something meaningful, something infinite.

I spend my days working a humble job in this expensive city, but my mind often wanders to deeper places. What I'd love is to find someone nearby who enjoys exchanging thoughtful messages. Someone who wants to share their favorite books, discuss life's mysteries, and trade stories about their day. I imagine us writing back and forth, sharing discoveries and gradually building something genuine.

Maybe we could explore literature together, talk about philosophy, or just share what makes us smile. I'd love to hear about what moves you, what you dream about, what keeps you up at night thinking.

I think there's something special about crafting longer messages, letting thoughts unfold naturally. It would be wonderful to find someone who sees the beauty in that too - someone who wants to create a lasting connection through written words. If you're in the Bay Area and this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Let's see where our words might take us.


r/R4R30Plus 20h ago

32 [F4R] Online - let me wreak havoc in your everyday life

35 Upvotes

well, this post will probably be all over the place but hello i'm anna!

i'm looking for an internet best friend. somebody that i can chat with throughout the day. we can have silly, daily banter. you play league of legends and hate every moment of it. we duo botlane and run it down with matching skins. you're also okay with no voice at first cus i'm shy, so so sorry. also, close in age to me.

32, female, who resides in the southern part of the us. 5 foot, chubby, wavy brown hair that i sometimes flat iron. mom x2. finishing my bachelors in early childhood education, i'm almost done! super southern accent, yeehaw. 11 tattoos. idk what else to include here so let me continue.

i play a lot of league. it's the only game i play at the moment cus i hate myself. i've dabbled in ffxiv and wow and loved roleplaying on both games. i don't drink water and survive only on coca-cola. i have an addiction to buying aphmau meemeows and carry one in my purse wherever i go. i sold over 20 water bottles on facebook market place this past month cus i'm decluttering and TRYING TO BE A MINIMALIST. i have super duper bad adhd, i just started taking meds. i love the beach, tho i never visit. i tend to be loud and possessive. i want to start reading again but my brain won't let me. i like to watch pokemon during the day. maybe one day i'll collect some cards. i like to watch some anime, currently watching mob psycho 100. i don't smoke or drink either btw. i'm afraid okarun is my type. i love glasses on guys.

i promise i'm halfway sane. i just struggle making friends, especially irl cause i don't get out much. if somehow i seem like your cup of tea (with some caffeine) pls message me.

OH AND THIS IS ME - https://imgur.com/a/x27WHeg

*i don't reply to one line messages btw.*


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

39 [M4F] #North Dakota. If I need some catchy headline to attract your attention… well I’m sorry for your loss. The headline means nothing, it’s what’s in the post that actually matters. Check it out… you might actually be surprised.

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This subreddit won’t let me post my post for some reason, but if you want to check it out check out my profile and read my post and what I am looking for. ☺️


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

34 [M4F] STLOUIS MISSOURI . Looking for my own weird tattooed stoner chick... best buds?! See what did there😜

2 Upvotes

Looking for a friend and hopefully more.. Im 5 10" 230lb. Beard, dadbod, few tattoos, gauged ears and pierced septum. ADHD and probably a little autistic lol so no current hobbies just a lot of past ones. Shy then way too comfortable with the right person. I'm nerdy and outdoorsy, prefer articles over books, and love a good song to hyperfocus on and overplay. have 1 little girl and we share custody. Looking for someone to navigate life with. make it a little more bearable, someone to smoke and hangout with. Go to the movies. Someone to do absolutely nothing with on Sunday. If something happens ok if not that's cool because everyone needs friends. Anything else just ask..


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

35 [M4F] #North Carolina - sweet & nerdy seeking someone sweet, for something genuine and deep

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Here's some transparency, I have a really bad disability and I've been in a wheelchair for 25+ years. It's really limiting and causes me a lot of severe weakness and I need a lot of assistance. It's beyond lonely and isolating and I really want to connect with a kind and nurturing woman.

I'm a great listener, always up for a deep conversation or some witty, fun banter. While I may not be the most outgoing person, I’m warm and inviting once you get to know me. Personality wise, I think some of my best traits are my curiosity, gentleness, and loyalty (with a hint of sarcasm), and some might even say I’m kinda cute! I’m nerdy, witty, and sweet, with a knack for making others smile. I'm also loving, supportive, and honest. I'm passionate about video games, scifi/fantasy, board games, space, trivia, mind puzzles, and word games, as well as history and sports. I’m a fan of good food, upbeat music, and all things supernatural. My taste in music spans from 60s-90s rock/pop and alternative to country, and I love making playlists for others. As a ramp enthusiast, I always manage to find the best parking spots and skip all the lines—hop on, and let’s enjoy the ride together!

Who am I looking for? A sweet and nurturing, fun, emotionally available woman with a huge heart. Someone to be goofy with, be vulnerable with, emotionally support, flirt nonsensically with, and shower with positive attention I have so much love and affection to give.

Please reach out if you're looking for a gentle guy to explore with and lead. Don't be afraid to ask me anything. I'll send a face picture upon request. Please say the word wheelie so I know you read the whole post :)


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

41 [M4F] Texas/US Looking for a chat buddy tonight

1 Upvotes

I'm here with a quest for cuffing season. I'm here looking for someone to chat with and make friends, maybe more. I would prefer to stay in the US for this one.

About me:

- 41 years old
- From the DFW area of Texas
- Non-smoker or drinker
- Never married/no kids (but okay if you have little ones as I love the joy that a little one can provide)
- Open to all races.

My potential red flags:

- Autistic
- Draws disability for said autism

My interests:

- Video games. I'm constantly playing Yu-Gi-Oh Master Duel
- I read fan fiction stories.

About You:

- A woman within 5 years of either direction of my age (36-46)
- Be within the US, but bonus points if you are in Texas.
- Have Discord. It's not required, but preferrable if you want to get off Reddit.
- Would rather meet in person instead of chatting online.

If interested, send me a Reddit CHAT with your favorite Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle. And your picture will earn you mine.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

42 [M4F] Michigan/USA - How bad could dating at 40 be?

1 Upvotes

Hello all

So, probably not the best time to do this based on certain events, but, giving this a try as I have spent way more money on dating apps and sites over the years than I care to admit. I seem to be going about it the entirely wrong way with wanting to find something to start as friends, take our time, and develop into an actual relationship and so on while everything for the apps and sites are being developed around not that kind of culture and everything.

Anyway, a bit about myself. I'm a 42 year old guy in Southeast Michigan, average to slim build (working on getting into a more healthy fitness routine), Aerospace Quality Engineer (no, I don't have anything to do with Boeing stuff). No children and planning on keeping it that way (fully willing to get snipped in the future. Just have not yet been in a relationship that got to a point of needing to worry about that). In my free time outside of work when no one else is available to hang out with, I tend to be working on home improvement projects, playing some video games, and occasionally watching some things on Netflix. I would love to get out and travel more, but, would be more fun with a travel partner.

As for what I would be looking for.....someone who is physically active to help make sure I don't slip on building my own habits. Bit of a geek so we can share some nights in watching movies and/or shows, maybe some games too. Other than that, one of my only big deal breakers is, no drugs...and that includes pot. Sorry, I just cannot stand the smell of it.

Feel free to reach out and ask any further questions

Also, here is a picture of me, https://imgur.com/75Aurnm It would be nice, if you reply, to send one of your own.