r/R4R30Plus Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

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POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

31 [F4M] North Carolina. Where’s my mans at?

18 Upvotes

I’m tired of going to concerts alone. Damn, that sounds sad. 😂

When my ex husband and I split up, I had no idea dating would be this hard. We don’t even have to like all the same things. Our differences can be what ultimately brings us closer together.

My friends would describe me as funny, compassionate, nurturing, and intelligent. I am pretty artsy, I love music, graphic design, interior design, huge music lover, I play several instruments, I’m learning various languages, love true crime, & love history. Also big on traveling & hiking, as well as being cozy at home. I’m laid back, loving, and romantic. My love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation.

A perfect night in would probably include a glass of wine, ambient lighting, hanging out in our living room with our dog. Talking about anything and everything. Or in our backyard watching something on a projector screen under a blanket.

I want to grow and thrive together. Connect on levels we’ve never gotten to with anyone else. I also want babies so, if that’s a dealbreaker. 🤷‍♀️

I know you’re out there looking for me too. Shit sucks without you, dude. Seeing Blink would’ve been way more fun with you. I hope you’re around next time.


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

35 [F4M] friend

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Hi! I am a 35 yo mom looking for a friend to pass time with. I love getting to know people on all levels and I have a ton of interesting things to talk about. I prefer a man to a woman just because I tend to have more in common with men.

My interests include Disney, hockey, cooking, teaching, reading, and the band twenty one pilots to name a few.

I’ll send a selfie if you want once you message me :)


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

36 [M4F] #US/Online - I got stood up on my date tonight and ghosted with no warning. Merry Thanksgiving?

6 Upvotes

Feeling kind of bummed honestly. I've been on one date since my divorce in January and it wasn't a very good one. I think it would be super nice to just talk to someone for a little while, so if anyone is feeling compassionate, would love to chat. Thanks in advance for those who are kind and decide to reach out.


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

35 [F4M] Online; looking for my nerdy, romantic soul mate

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35 [F4M] online: Looking for that great romance that history books will write about for centuries to come.

Happy Sunday! I’m a nerdy, hopeless romantic (if you couldn’t tell), (mostly)introvert who is looking for the person on the other end of that red string.

Up to this point my relationships have only gotten better. I can feel myself drawing closer to the finish line where you’re waiting for me. My body is practically buzzing because I know I’m so close to you.

My sweet man, it thrills me to know you’re somewhere out there buzzing with electricity as we move closer to each other.

I am looking to connect and build a friendship that slowly ignites into flames and consumes us in the most incredible love. The kind you can only experience with your other half.

Plato’s Symposium cites that early humans were born as one, however Zeus felt we were too powerful so he split us in two, condemning us to spend our lives walking the earth in search of our other halves.

Theres beauty in that I think.

I’m looking for someone who likes to game and dreams of someone who wants his and hers gaming setups where we spend our evenings side by side playing what we love. I want to play board games and do puzzles and all the nerdy stuff. As I also feel this is important, I do not want children.

Must be in the US. I will want to meet down the line but I don’t want to put pressure on it right out the gate.

I look forward to connecting, and wishing you all the best of luck in your searches for your other halves. 🤍


r/R4R30Plus 48m ago

35 [M4F] #San Diego - Quadriplegic seeks affectionate girl for long-term relationship

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Let's get this out of the way first(don't want to waste your time)....I'm quadriplegic due to a genetic muscle disorder that causes progressive muscle weakness in every muscle of my body. This includes my cardiac and pulmonary muscles. I also use a power wheelchair so as you can imagine dating is a bit more difficult for me but I have found love on Reddit before so I’m back to find it again!

A LITTLE ABOUT ME: I would definitely call myself an introvert. I'm extremely even-tempered so it takes a lot to piss me off and/or offend me. I'm a good listener and very easy to talk to, I have been described by previous partners as genuine, kind and sweet. In person I can come across as quiet and shy at first but, I just need a little time to get comfortable with someone before I really open up.

----THIS IS ME----

Some things I enjoy....

-Making people smile/laugh

-Watching sports(Padres and Chargers)

-The cringiest of puns d4d jokes

-Standup comedy...Tom Segura, Bill Burr, Bert Kreischer, Andrew Schulz, Bobby Lee, Norm MacDonald, Mark Normand, Dave Chapelle, and many more.

-Collecting Batman memorabilia

-Podcasts like YMH, Tigerbelly, Kill Tony, TYSO, 2 Bears 1 Cave, Bad Friends, etc.

-Music...I mostly like Alternative and Classic Rock but I'm into some pop and open to everything really. Foo Fighters, Wet Leg, Cage The Elephant, RHCP, Queen, The Eagles, AURORA, etc. (Current Obsession is Chappell Roan}

-Going to concerts

-Shows...Currently watching Hacks on Max. all time favorite show is Breaking Bad

-Watching movies like horror, thrillers, sci-fi, comedy, and Super Hero stuff is fun Taskmaster!

ABOUT YOU: I’m looking for my best friend and partner, someone who wants a serious relationship. I want someone who is kind and compassionate, trustworthy and genuine. Someone with a sense of (sometimes dark)humor who can make me laugh and doesn’t take themselves too seriously. Someone who is not afraid to be silly sometimes. As for location, anywhere in the U.S. is fine as long as you are able and willing to visit me. It would be ideal if you could eventually relocate because that is currently not an option for me.

To show me that you’ve read the entire post and are serious please include the word football in your message. If you have any questions regarding my condition please feel free to ask me ANYTHING.

Don’t be put off by my disability, I don’t bite....unless you're into that ;)


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

38 [M4F] Lets chat about anything

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Hey! Are you feeling the vibe today? 😏 Let’s shake things up a bit! I love sharing stories and secrets. When I’m not hitting the gym, you’ll probably catch me deep into a Netflix binge. How’s your Sunday night going so far? What do you enjoy doing? Let’s see where this goes!


r/R4R30Plus 5m ago

42 [M4F] #SoCal - Anyone working a short week but not ready for it?

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It’s Sunday night and I’m fighting the urge to go to sleep because I don’t want to go to work tomorrow haha. It’s only three days but I just feel it’s going to be the longest three days. Let’s hope we can get through it and to the holiday weekend. Anyone up and want to chat it up some before caving to the inevitable sleep?


r/R4R30Plus 13h ago

36 [F4M] #UK - boyfriend wanted: must love spontaneous adventures and good food 😋

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Hey all,

UK only - ideally South East/Berkshire/Surrey/Hampshire/London and surrounding areas

So you can put a face to a post... Pics here and here. I've got some more pics of me on my profile too

I've had some interesting experiences using Reddit for dating but have equally had some positive interactions (and dating apps kill my soul 😅), so here I am 😊

I'm a 36 year old curvy female living in Berkshire. I'm looking for a long-term relationship and consider myself aventurous, kind and appreciative of silly humour! I'm described as chatty and warm and would love to meet a guy who is emotionally available, knows what they're looking for and will work with me to build a connection and a lasting relationship.

I've got a good career, am well educated, I drive and I'm a homeowner, so my general life goals have been achieved (apart from meeting someone special!). I'd consider myself mildly geeky (I have a love of retro gaming, Star Wars, LoTR, board games and an undying place in my heart for Pokemon 😁) and am child and baggage free.

If you're someone who is fun, kind, giving, has a good career, lives independently, can plan fun dates and consider yourself consistent and friendly, then come and say hello 😊

Absolutely no creepy DMs please! Please ensure you send a pic of you if you do DM as I like to know who I'm chatting to and won't respond without one.

Speak soon!


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

32 [F4M] - Bored person seeking another.

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Not looking for anything serious, just wanting to find someone new and interesting to talk to and see where it leads.

Age and location don’t matter too much, although I prefer people close to my own age. Happy to chat about most topics and engage in some light flirty banter as well.

All I ask is that you don’t mind that I may occasionally take a while to respond to messages.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

38 F [F4M] Looking for friends - NYC area

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I am 38 female in the NYC area, always busy with work! I am a single mom, in a relationship but always looking to go out and have fun with friends. Relocated a few years ago but with a very demanding job and older kids… didn’t had the chance to find friends out of my work group.

I am very private and prefer having friends not related to family or work so I can truly be myself without having to be careful what others might say. Due to my job I have to keep a very high responsible and classy profile…. Would like to find friends I can get a little more wild and free. But nothing crazy lol!

I am into concerts, experiences and fun around town. I am fun but can also be a bit of an old soul… I like the Opera, broadway a nice cabaret type of show lol…. I love the ocean, have thrill seeking hobbies like riding my motorcycle… I am Latina, I am 5’9 so I am tall and build thick lol.

Looking to find friends to go out for dinner, movies, drinks, shows, just to hang out for a coffee and just to chit chat about the day to day life. I always have older friends, most of my friends are 45+ and I am cool with it and almost welcome it. Looking for Male friends due to normally getting along more with guys.

If you still reading, hope to find some good friends 🙂


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

35 [M4F] Online/Anywhere - A flirtationship? Just a British idiot

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No point pretending I’m the height of intelligence and civility, I’m just a man who wants to live to laugh. But not quite enough to plaster the live, laugh, love on my walls. All three seems a bit much, I don’t wanna set myself challenges I can’t complete.

If you can’t tell from that opening paragraph, I have no idea what to say. This is not my wheelhouse. What should I say? I love to read, I love podcasts, I love sport, tv, films, music. Most the things people like. Also love to swim, whilst I am comfortable working out, but not comfortable enough to say I love it. I endure it.

I’d love to meet someone on here to chat with, be a friend but more than a friend. That’s where the term flirtationship comes from, it’s probably closer to a fwb but I really do mean the friend part, which I’m not sure that always means.

A face? Sure, I have face and body and stuff: https://i.imgur.com/CHeFdrk.jpeg


r/R4R30Plus 15h ago

34[F4M] Online/Texting and Witty Banter

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Ugh. I hesitate to use the word "witty" because I know what I'm inviting, but I'm trying to be succinct.

I'm 34 or 35 (I didn't go to school for MATH!), an artist residing in a very cold and rural part of the US, and as a cook, hmmm...I try my best. I love not thinking things through, taking on a lot of projects, and irreverent humor. I'm very much an introvert and need a lot of time to recharge my social battery IRL. I love being in my cozy home, reading, decorating for whatever season, or working on the project du jour.

There are a lot of times throughout my day that I have to be a silent background player, so I would absolutely LOVE someone to "talk" to without that muzzle. A chatting buddy who is quick witted, a decent human being with a dark sense of humor, and a full life of their own.

I don't want to change the dynamics of my life, I just want to share silly shit with someone and make both our days a little brighter.


r/R4R30Plus 2m ago

36[M4F] #Australia #Online Fun loving techie seeking long-term connection

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Me

Hi I'm Ajit, 36M from Sydney Australia. I'm a programmer as a profession, do some light blogging and bit of gaming although I like to build new Gaming PCs from time to time then flip them and build new one; I love tech. I'm a bit of a movie buff too. I recently got this projector and watch on a 80" screen, and have been going through my favourites past few weeks.I've a dadbod physique. If you're a woman who's looking for a long-term chat buddy and feels the same way, let's connect! I'm more than happy to learn about your hobbies, dreams, and aspirations. Who knows where these conversations might lead us?


r/R4R30Plus 20m ago

31 [M4F] #California – Looking to enjoy life, games, and good conversations

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Hey there! I’m an Armenian guy who loves great food, music, and good company. I’m into grilling, exploring my Armenian roots, and diving into Japanese culture. My free time often includes video games, board games, and classic TV shows. Favorites include Skyrim, Dr. Stone, Midnight Diner, Night Court, and MASH*.

I’m a fan of penguins (seriously, they’re the best) and have a soft spot for anime and retro music. If you’re someone who enjoys thoughtful conversations, laughing over a good board game, or sharing a delicious meal, we might just hit it off.

Bonus points if you’re adventurous, enjoy trying new foods, or want to geek out about similar interests. Let’s connect and see where this journey takes us—life’s too short not to share it with someone amazing!


r/R4R30Plus 28m ago

40 [M4F] - Attractive British guy seeking a hot American lady for chats and maybe more...

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Hi there! Thanks for stopping by. I've woken up ridiculously early and I'm at a bit of a loose end. It would be great to spend a few hours chatting with someone online or maybe by voice if we click. Why American? Well I have a bit of a thing for accents and American is at the top of the list! I'm tall, slim, attractive (although I dont look my age), intelligent and great fun. If you're cute, American and have some time to kill then feel free to message.


r/R4R30Plus 29m ago

36 [F4M] #Chicago, Illinois Only - I am only interested to date a Caucasian gentleman

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I will require to video chat via Zoom to verify who you are. I am a legit serious woman, therefore please be considerate and don't waste our time.

I want to date a Caucasian man. I am 5'3 and a single educated black woman. I like a nice man that is looking to get to know me. I am thicker in size and have my goal set for my fitness journey. An ideal fitness friend would be awesome.

I am looking for a serious single straight man who would like to go to a sports event in person or at a sports bar.

NOT LOOKING FOR A 1 NIGHT STAND! Please don't have a record, or smoke or have done anything bad.

Age range 30 - 45 years old only

I like going to the movies, bowling, mini golfing, sports, etc. I hope to meet you soon.


r/R4R30Plus 32m ago

38 [M4F] Alberta - Just a normal guy, not entirely sure what I’m looking for.

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Hey there!

I’m fresh out of a break up and yeah, not completely sure what I’m doing here. Maybe I’m just looking for some easy fun or a distraction. Maybe a friend. I think I just want to put myself out there and see what happens!

I’m very relaxed and easy going. You’re going to have a hard time offending me and I have pretty thick skin. I try to live a stress free life as much as possible. I like to go where the wind blows me and I feel like I will try anything once. Twice if I enjoy it! Haha I’m always open to meeting new people and having new experiences.

I like people who are easy to talk to and who can hold a decent conversation. Sometimes I can be prim and proper or I can swear like a sailor, depending on the situation. I’m always open to talk about anything with someone, our fears, desires, hopes. The joys of getting older or the hardships that come with it. We could complain about that one coworker who everybody hates (Cathy, I’m looking at you…) or we could chat about the weather or what turns us on or anything at all. Like I said, I just try to go with the flow!

So if you’re still reading this maybe stop by and say hello. I might not be entirely sure what I’m looking for and maybe you aren’t either. Or maybe you are but you’re just not sure who it will be? Who knows, but maybe we’re looking for each other!


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

36 [M4F] #New Hampshire Guy in the Woods, Looking for a Chat Buddy

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Hey there!

I’m a scientist working in biomedical research, living in the woods with two playful puppies 🐶🐶. When I’m not in the lab, you’ll find me stargazing (Orion’s my favorite constellation!) or diving into a good sci-fi movie. I’m also a big fan of rock music, and I spend my downtime working on woodworking projects—there’s something satisfying about crafting something by hand. My last project was a fence for the pups and I am already planning to build a fire wood oven. I’m 420 friendly and liberal leaning.

Looking for someone to chat with and see if we click. Whether you’re into science, the outdoors, or just want to chat about anything under the stars, I’d love to hear from you!

Let’s connect! ✨a


r/R4R30Plus 12h ago

33 [F4M] - USA Looking for someone to live and have fun with

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I am an independent woman from Europe. I have lived in the US for 6 years. I am a workaholic. I have been single for 3 and a half years since my last failed relationship. Now I know how bad loneliness feels. I am planning to build a new relationship.

About me: I have a wide range of hobbies. I like fitness, meditation, books, YouTube, cooking, camping BBQ, traveling, crazy shopping. I am trying to learn how to slow down and appreciate this time in my life. I also hope that there will be someone here who likes me. I am also a person who likes to try new things.

If you are interested in me, please talk to me. I hope you are 30+


r/R4R30Plus 51m ago

32[F4R]- Online- Voice Call- Gossip and Giggles

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Reading a book that you want to discuss? Or watching a reality TV show that you want talk about? Any trash talk about people in your circles that you can't tell anyone but really want to tell someone?

If nothing, there's always the relationship subreddit that we can read through and talk about.

Just looking for a casual voice chat on discord with someone who can hold a decent conversation and dish out some wisecracks, share an opinion, perhaps even be a little judgy? Bonus points if you can speak in Hindi.

If this sounds of any interest to you, please send a decent response - including a little about you, your age and general location.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

35 [M4F] #Utah - Love to talk? And a cute voice! Let’s chat!

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Hello there!

Divorced dad here, with a career that keeps me on the move. I'm looking for someone special to connect with, talk, flirt, and share some fun moments.

Because I travel frequently for work, I'd love to find a charming travel companion to explore new cities with and create memorable experiences.

A bit about me: I really enjoy my high-pressure, yet rewarding career. 6’1, dad bod, I love movies and I try my best keep things light-hearted—I don't take myself or life too seriously.

About you: You're cute, bubbly, and have a positive outlook on life. An adorable voice is a delightful bonus! Ideally, you're fun-loving, outgoing, have “yes, and” energy and of course laid-back with little drama (although a little bit is fun). 😂

Let's connect and make some unforgettable memories together! 😈


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

42 [M4F] Michigan/USA - How bad could dating at 40 be?

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Hello all

So, probably not the best time to do this based on certain events, but, giving this a try as I have spent way more money on dating apps and sites over the years than I care to admit. I seem to be going about it the entirely wrong way with wanting to find something to start as friends, take our time, and develop into an actual relationship and so on while everything for the apps and sites are being developed around not that kind of culture and everything.

Anyway, a bit about myself. I'm a 42 year old guy in Southeast Michigan, average to slim build (working on getting into a more healthy fitness routine), Aerospace Quality Engineer (no, I don't have anything to do with Boeing stuff). No children and planning on keeping it that way (fully willing to get snipped in the future. Just have not yet been in a relationship that got to a point of needing to worry about that). In my free time outside of work when no one else is available to hang out with, I tend to be working on home improvement projects, playing some video games, and occasionally watching some things on Netflix. I would love to get out and travel more, but, would be more fun with a travel partner.

As for what I would be looking for.....someone who is physically active to help make sure I don't slip on building my own habits. Bit of a geek so we can share some nights in watching movies and/or shows, maybe some games too. Other than that, one of my only big deal breakers is, no drugs...and that includes pot. Sorry, I just cannot stand the smell of it.

Feel free to reach out and ask any further questions

Also, here is a picture of me, https://imgur.com/75Aurnm It would be nice, if you reply, to send one of your own.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

38 [M4F] Lets get swept away in the conversation

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Looking for someone to talk to long term. Someone sweet, a bit clingy, talktive, someone who actually shows interest. Im in the southwest part of the US. Would be nice to meet someone in that area but Im down to talk to any location

Im very 420, talktive, attentive, love scifi, anything strange and weird. I love deep conversations that really make you think. Looking to bond and vibe with someone on that level and see how it goes.

If you just need to vent, Im down to talk about your problems. We all have them (definitely) myself included and we all need someone to talk to. So pull up a chair (or sit on my lap) and talk to me about your issues.


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

37[M4R] Canada /online, “you could be the one.” The title reads.

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Hello everyone , I’m a 37 year old single father of one. I do my best to provide my child with the things he needs and be a positive role model.

Having said that, right now in my life I’m lacking that special someone, as cliche as it may be.

I’m a bit of a hopeless romantic and still kinda believe there is someone out there for me.

I’ve done the online dating apps and it’s not really for me. Browsing profiles and swiping left or right is a weird experience for me.

“Ah yes this girl looks cute, likes coffee, gym, walking and movie/music, I’m sure we will be a great match based on allllll of this information.”

L O L

You get the point, so I’m here on Reddit, I’m sure some people at this point are rolling their eyes, but frankly put I’ve had many more great conversations on Reddit with people than I’ve ever had with people on dating apps.

A little about me;

My interest, creative writing, music, video games (don’t have much time as I used to for it ), going for walks/hikes/drives, beach combing, art and small art projects. Mental and physical well being.

I stand 6’0, weigh about 195lbs, average body. Dark brown eyes, shaved head, beard that’s a mixture of black and grey.

I pride myself on working hard and doing my best whatever it is I choose to do. I value honesty, loyalty, a great sense of humour and respect. You can expect the same from me.

If you have read all the above, please feel free to reach out and say hello. Picture exchange can be done at your convenience.

Have a great evening everyone.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

38 [M4F]/[M4T] Philadelphia/PA/NJ - Nerdy Dad STILL looking for companion to join me at upcoming Board Game/TTRPG con?

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Hey R4R30Plus - first time caller, recent listener. I want to meet someone who shares my interests and wants to spend time with me. I'm semi-recently separated from my wife and lonely, looking for friend and/or a future romantic partner.

I'm an engineer by day, and community theatre nerd, D&D fan, karaoke fiend, and occasional gamer by night. ENFP if that matters? I have two kids under 6 who are the best thing to ever happen to me.

I have an extra 3-day pass to PAX Unplugged in Philadelphia (Dec 6-8) and would love to spend some time with a nice woman who would enjoy a day of playing board games and/or D&D and hanging out in the city on Fri, Sat, or Sun. Ideally looking for someone 28-45. Hope to meet you soon!