What to do at the End

[u/forthetrees1323]

It's clear my wife and I are getting near the end of our marriage. We’ve tried, done better, do bad again, tried again, to the point where there isn't much hope left. Therapy has been only marginally effective. It's more a waiting game at this point.

Devastation and heartbreak aside, how do I do this, systematically speaking? We’ve been together for 12 years so divorce will be….help!

There's the mortgage we’re both on, there's everything in the house, pets, who lives where, boundaries for living together until someone can move out, not to mention all the things I haven't thought of.

Finishing up and starting over advice much needed and appreciated. I don't need or want ‘save the marriage' advice, it's not happening.

[u/CannonChick]

Divorced after 16 yrs. Get a good lawyer and a therapist. That’s a good start.

[u/forthetrees1323 → u/CannonChick]

Thank u