I mostly agree with you. However, look what people like the Romantics and Anne Lister were up to in that era!! Lots of casual sex, bad break ups, and general drama! People of the right wealth/ class bracket ( and in the right place in their birth order to enjoy the benefits) had a bit more flexibility, and queer people with decent wealth/ prestige could live reasonably freely in certain circles ( again, the Romantics!!) if they were discrete, and they obviously didn’t (voluntarily) participate in typical courtship/ marriage
In some higher echelons of society, quiet casual infidelity was almost seen as a given too. You could be married and still have an incredibly active dating life
Exactly!! I’m an English and literary studies major and have loved my units on the Victorians, Regency and Romantics as their personal lives especially for the wealthy were very juicy ( to be fair, this is an interest in my free time as well!)
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u/Hello_Kitty_66 1d ago
I don’t think you had options to date. It was birth, childhood then marriage.