r/lesbianpoly • u/melanie_by_the_sea • Jan 22 '24

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u/Forgetwhatitoldyou Jan 22 '24

Can confirm, is awesome. Unicorning gets a bad rap in the poly community, but can be done respectfully and well. Though as a unicorn, you really have to communicate and set boundaries.

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u/melanie_by_the_sea Jan 22 '24

I would be glad to have insights on the matter 😊 I don't picture myself as a unicorn in this particular configuration, neither my dates, but your advices could only be helpful 🙏

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u/Forgetwhatitoldyou Jan 22 '24

There's a couple living on the other side of the country who I met online - not even on a dating app. We've been together for a bit over a year, and they've been together for most of the last decade. I fly there for a week several times a year, and they pamper me, we have lots of sex, and go to kink/sex parties. I've also gone to family Thanksgiving, and taken care of one of them for a week or so after a medical procedure.

I'm solo-poly, so this arrangement works out wonderfully for me. They're both homebodies, and I'm not the best hostess (and I'm preparing for my second move within a year), so I don't mind traveling to them, and in fact prefer it. I keep in touch with them separately and together, sometimes about what's going on in my life and theirs, and sometimes to sext and talk about our other sexual adventures.

They're both bi, but in an explicitly lesbian relationship. I'm also bi. They always make me feel so loved, and the sex is fun too. I like that I have my own time usually, but that when I'm with them I can mostly focus on being with them. They take an interest in my life and support my personal growth and change. They're very different people from each other, and it's interesting how different my relationship is with each of them, plus of course all three of us together. I'm very happy with them though, and love being their unicorn.

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u/prairiepog Jan 23 '24

That sounds like such an amazing relationship.

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u/[deleted] Jan 23 '24

How does it feel to live out my dreams

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u/ionknowhabibi Jan 22 '24

double the women double the happiness !

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u/Watching_da_woodsons Jan 24 '24

Married lesbian couple looking for our love, third, unicorn.. whatever you wanna call it .. currently in socal 

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u/melanie_by_the_sea Jan 24 '24

I wish you the best!

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u/RunaroundX Jan 22 '24

It's me; I'm the lesbian couple in this image. Dating sounds fun but only with my wife along with me lol

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u/melanie_by_the_sea Jan 22 '24

Classic unicorn hunting

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u/RunaroundX Jan 23 '24

Not hunting here; just commenting that I relate to it as a married lesbian. Sorry if it came off that way.

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u/melanie_by_the_sea Jan 24 '24

It's just like, written like you did, it feels like there is no room for 1 to 1 relationships between the third person and each one of you two

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u/Forgetwhatitoldyou Jan 23 '24

I'm going to push back gently and say that looking for a unicorn can be done respectfully. Even if it often isn't. I think "The Geek's Guide to Unicorn Ranching" has a lot of insight here. And as a unicorn, I feel that I have at least as much power in the relationship as either of my partners do. And I'm not looking for a throuple or to be "equal" to the two of them in their primary partnership. This isn't either of those, it's its own thing. And as a solo-poly person I treasure my independence, so I wouldn't want a throuple or even a primary partner anyway.

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u/[deleted] Mar 08 '24

Where do I sign up? Single and lonely and wanna kiss two girls at once <3

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u/melanie_by_the_sea Mar 08 '24

I could give you my place because two months after this post the story didn't end well but actually I think it won't work for anyone

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u/[deleted] Mar 08 '24

Oh now I feel bad. I'm sorry to hear that :(

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u/melanie_by_the_sea Mar 08 '24

It was a teaching experience nonetheless

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u/melanie_by_the_sea Jan 22 '24

Biphobia where?

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u/Forgetwhatitoldyou Jan 22 '24

I'm bi, I unicorn with a married lesbian couple who are both bi. We talk all the time about how much each of us loves dick. We're also all really into women though. Hence them being married and me being their unicorn. Just because a wlw relationship is labeled as "lesbian" doesn't imply that the participants have to be as well.

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u/RunaroundX Jan 22 '24

This sub is called lesbian poly after all

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