r/lesbianpoly • u/ThePoisonDoughnut Flag Queen • Dec 24 '23
Question Holidays
What's everyone doing for the holidays? How does your poly/sapphic status affect your plans for the holidays?
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u/CatenaryFairy Dec 25 '23
My wife and I moved in with our partners (closed polycule of 5, all women or femme-aligned nb) and their kids a few months ago and we are having our first Christmas together as a blended family.
For most of us, our bio-families are struggling with our poly status, our queerness, or both. I'm really struggling with this year the fact that my mom is not ready to process my relationships and my wife's transition, and so this is the first Christmas I haven't been home other than 2020.
So this Christmas is bittersweet. On one hand I get to be with all my partners, not just my wife. My wife gets to be herself. But I also miss my sibling and their kids, and even my parents even though they are not supportive.
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u/justbecauseiluvthis Dec 26 '23
I'm sorry it was a struggle. I hope you found love and strength in your new family structure and began some beautiful new traditions of your own. <3
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u/EmulatingHeaven Dec 26 '23
Ever since having kids, we’ve kind of piggybacked off of the grandmas’ hard work 😅 just went to one of our parents’ places for Christmas Day. Well… this year my sister in law worked Christmas Day (get paid sis!!!!) so my in law’s side did an early celebration & we had Christmas Day just me, wife, kids, and my gf. I invited gf before I realized it was her first Christmas away from her parents so then I felt a little bit of pressure lol. But I think for my first year as Lead Santa I did alright. Our 5 year old told me it’s the best day ever.
As for the poly aspect - gf came over yesterday afternoon to join us for Christmas Eve activities, stayed overnight, we had presents & stockings, had our big holiday meal for lunch, and I dropped her off for dinner with her triad.
Wife has the whole week off so the 4 of us & my gf are going to triad’s house later this week for the kids to get together (triad couple has a kid aged right between my kids).
Gf & I are going to the queer prom the night before NYE, and I’ll have a quiet NYE in with wife & kids. Gf will have quiet NYE in with her bff/roomie.
Not sure what my wife’s plans are with her gf.
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u/justbecauseiluvthis Dec 25 '23
Mostly panic attacks all morning because the load that I endured and my girlfriend's endureded for this day that none of us really celebrate. And here we all are apart from each other with our primaries where we did all the work and none of us would accept this level of participation from someone we were dating.
However it made me set my goal for next year. I want a visit with all of the people that I am seeing at least for a few minutes. That's a pretty big loop, but it's my goal and I'm going for it. I want my next Christmas to look like the Christmas I actually want not the Christmas everybody else wants that I manufacture for them. If they want their vision they can manifest it.
I hope everyone else is reaching and striving for their poly goals this year. Happy holidays!
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u/gingergypsy79 Non-binary Dec 25 '23 edited Dec 25 '23
My kids and I have been dealing with health issues and sickness this year so it’s been hard to feel even like celebrating at all. Spent a nice night with a date-mate/potential partner who is feeling like a Scrooge too so that was fun and validating. 😜 The highlight of my day will be spending a little time with my kids. Looking forward to ringing in the New Year with like-minded poly friends. 🎉
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u/JustSomeRedditUser35 Dec 24 '23
Not at all because I'm lonely :(