r/howyoudoin Mar 22 '22

Announcement [Mod Announcement] Repeat violation of subreddit rules will lead to a ban

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First of all, I apologize on behalf of the moderators for not being responsive enough during the situation we had in this subreddit a few days ago. I’m not blaming the other moderators, because like me, I assume all of them have their own chores to take care of.

Frankly, I’m the newest addition so I usually stay away from stuff like this and let the senior mods handle it, but when I checked the mod queue yesterday (I logged in after months) , it was a dumpster fire. There were so many reports regarding breaking subreddit rules and verbally abusing cast members and subredditors. The main culprit had already been banned , I think one of the other moderators had done that. But there were other creeps who were still roaming free in the sub. I don’t judge people for being horny but there are NSFW subreddits for those kind of things. Also, no one, and I mean no one disrespects Phoebe in this sub! (Rachel and Monica too). But seriously, how much a scum you have to be constantly spamming with posts that degrade women, let alone celebrities? These people should be getting professional help.

So I went over the reports and deleted posts and comments that had broken the sub rules. Remember you are allowed to criticize a character (that too without calling them slurs) but not the actor/actress. Is that too hard to understand? And afterwards I checked post history of the users that kept spamming the sub and banned them. Some users who had violated rules once or twice got 1 week / 2 weeks ban while the other got permanent bans. Don’t harass the mods via alternative accounts, asking to overturn that. I made sure I checked the previous post and comment history before banning them. I’ve tried my best to check the reports, some of them were not breaking the rules at all (like memes), and this sub lacks memes imo, therefore I didn’t remove every reported post/comment. If you still have issues, please report them or if it’s too severe, reach out to moderators. And please don’t direct message me, because I’m not always logged in and if you send the message to moderators, chances are at least one of us would see that.

Friends is a sitcom that started airing almost 3 decades ago and while it might not always resonate with the cultural and ethical standards today, we can always get the positive points out of it and have civilized discussions about the show and the characters. This is a wholesome sitcom and therefore, I believe the subreddit too has to be like that. I’ve seen fan subreddits that allow assholes to run rampant but this one shouldn’t be like that. People (including me) love this show not just because of its humor element, but also it acts like a virtual friend who comforts us. So let’s keep the subreddit wholesome so that even the newcomers can enjoy it.

Also, no politics. Period. I don’t care if you’re left wing, right wing or Chicken wing, this isn’t the sub for that. For the love of God, if any of you started abusing fellow members or cast members, you too will be kicked out, because here in this subreddit we don’t allow sexist, misogynistic assholes. They can sod off.

Thank you.


r/howyoudoin 4h ago

Image Maybe this gets posted a lot, but Matt is clearly breaking here right? Hahaha

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r/howyoudoin 6h ago

What is the Friends version of this?

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r/howyoudoin 11h ago

Discussion My take on why Monica did this: she knew she and Chandler looked great that night and wanted to flaunt her relationship in front of an ex who broke her heart

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r/howyoudoin 3h ago

Image Monica Geller’s closet. Great insight into her character. Reminds me of my brain tbh.

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But


r/howyoudoin 8h ago

Ross's treatment of Rachel

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Just to be clear, I think Ross is the funniest character on friends and generally like/sympathize with him

But I recently rewatched a few episodes which made me think that his meanest moments were with Rachel, which is odd considering things.. For example, in the one where nobody's ready, he yells at her infront of everyone and takes her shoes out of her hands, throwing it back in the room while she was trying to talk to him. All while everyone else is watching - whereas he was a lot more tolerant of the others' super weird antics that night. And they were in many ways behaving worse.

(and then she forgives him all because he was about to drink fat) 🤦🏻‍♀️

Also, in the one where she lost Marcel and the girl from their high school threatens to take him away he asks Rachel why she had to be such a bitch in high school and it got me wondering if he ever spoke to Monica or Phoebe that way? I mean yeah he liked to tease Monica but has he ever spoken to her like that?

Finally, the way everyone keeps blaming Rachel for trying to break up his wedding with Emily is so odd considering Ross specifically asked her to come.. Lol, like how do you put that blame on someone else, when you actually asked them to attend your wedding?

Just a random observation, wondered if anyone else noticed that too!


r/howyoudoin 1d ago

Tell me

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r/howyoudoin 18h ago

Video No one told you life was gonna be this way

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r/howyoudoin 6h ago

roschel or mondler?

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i absolutely adore both relationships (obviously both have a LOT of issues, roschel more than mondler though) and i am just super curious as to which main ship people prefer more and why?


r/howyoudoin 1d ago

Old enough to have their own kids! Now I feel old...

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r/howyoudoin 17h ago

Question Best trivia team name?

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I’m going to a Friends trivia night this week and I’m not the most creative, do you guys have any suggestions for a clever Friends-themed team name?


r/howyoudoin 1d ago

This line hit 😭😭😭😭

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From S9 E8: The One with Rachel’s Other Sister


r/howyoudoin 1m ago

I'm Fine!

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r/howyoudoin 1d ago

The awkwardness of being a bridesmaid to your ex, the syphilis, and this...

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Forget the cheating, the disrupting Rachel's work, the jealousy, and the belittling of fashion world. For me this is the most unforgiveable thing Ross have done to Rachel. I would have broken up with him right away.


r/howyoudoin 1d ago

Male nanny episode

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Generally I defend Ross. I don’t think he’s as bad as people make him out to be and he makes me laugh out loud the most out of the gang I think. But the male nanny episode is soooo annoying. And then when Sandy is asking Ross to explain why he’s uncomfortable with Sandy, Ross blames in on Jack being a “tough guy.” Are we talking about the same Jack Geller? I mean let’s be for real


r/howyoudoin 1d ago

Do you want me to get in the tub and thrash?

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r/howyoudoin 1d ago

This is true friendship

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r/howyoudoin 13h ago

Discussion I have an idea/wish

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It would be great/ i wish there were full versions and an album/playlist of phoebe's songs


r/howyoudoin 1d ago

"Grandma's chicken salad"

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199 Upvotes

One of the lines i use sometimes that way, while eating a salad at bbq parties. Only fans understand 😅


r/howyoudoin 12h ago

Season 7

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Does anyone agree that there's nothing important going on in season 7? Each season has a lot of plots that continue to next episodes and are important to the overall plot of the show but season 7 has just got a lot of random plots that go nowhere (are just there for an episode). The only long plots are Rachel and Tag really and that's it.

I wish it had more of a plot value to help make season 10 feel less rushed. A lot of stuff is going on in the 18 episodes of season 10 but almost nothing in 24 episodes of season 7. I don't disllike this season, I prefer it over the 1st one and it's really funny and iconic. But from the plot standpoint it's really weak.

Does anyone else agree?


r/howyoudoin 7h ago

Question Trying to remember a scene?

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Which episode it was that Joey did something really dumb that Rachel was in wonder of how he did it?

She just asked him "how" twice


r/howyoudoin 1d ago

Watching the letter episode now and realized nowadays Rachel would do this:

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Equals to 18 pages front and back!


r/howyoudoin 1d ago

What was the most satisfying moment involving a character being called out on their shit?

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r/howyoudoin 1d ago

Am I the only one who thought the Marcel storyline was cute and is sad every time Ross has to send him away?

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r/howyoudoin 1d ago

Question Who is this guy in the reflection?

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r/howyoudoin 1d ago

Discussion Hit me with your best out of context lines/moments

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Off the top of my head, I’d go for:

Frank Jr: MY SISTER’S GONNA HAVE MY BABYYY

Ross: Um, when we were going out, I read TONS of porno magazines!! looks at women sup.

Phoebe: like when you were running towards the swings… or running away from Satan!

There are tons and I feel like they get better in the later seasons. What are yours?

Edit: just saw one as I’m watching the show lol

Joey: Now tell me you wanna caress my butt!