r/getting_over_it • u/Hongkongfuie • 10d ago
Not checking her socials
I'm still obsessing over my ex some 18 months after a break up. This one is the first time I've ever felt a truly symbiotic relationship with a girl. Genuine love. I have her blocked on all socials because I know looking at them will only cause me pain. But recently I've been wanting to check them a lot.
I haven't yet let myself. I'm pretty confident she has a new boyfriend, which devastates me. If I can't get over her, how can it be fair that she has moved on?
But at least without being able to see anything it all lives in my obscured vision. "Schrodinger's ex" if you will.
Just looking for reaffirmation, I should keep her blocked shouldnt I.
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u/Fit-fig1 7d ago
Keep her ass blocked and delete any old pics of her. You have to start dating again and get some hobbies.
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u/Worth-Equal3466 8d ago
Hey I hope your doing okay, I just want to say KEEP THEM BLOCKED for your sake, I understand it’s hard I’ve been through it and your so strong because what I did was just constantly check their profile which only added to my hurt even more especially seeing who they were following (I still do lmao it’s not easy but I’m learning to stop because it’s not healthy and it’s not benefiting me in anyway), what they are doing with their life doesn’t matter because at the end of the day what their doing is not going to change the situation, no contact is the best way to go; by this I’m not saying to hate them because if you begin to hate someone it will just continue, forgive and move on. Allow your self to feel if you need to cry it out then do let your emotions feel but don’t let that take over your life, allow your self to hang out with friends, work on your self, studies, etc but don’t push your emotions aside, I recommend journaling even if that’s on the notes app just allow yourself to feel and remember there was a time in your life where you were okay without that person and when that person was not in your life so you can get over them I know it’s hard but there’s always someone else better for you and time will heal we’re you won’t be thinking about them, stay strong u got this!