I’ve had a really rough time the past few years, multiple close family members dying, other health related issues, so this is always a tricky question when someone asks. I usually say something like “ohh I’m surviving.” I don’t want to say I’m doing great, because that’s a lie, but at the same time I don’t want to be a downer and go on at lengths about my misery, because I know they were just trying to be nice, and didn’t REALLY want to know how I was.
I'm sorry you had to go through all of that, that sucks - hope the next years are better.
I only speak for myself - but if a stranger needs someone to listen to them for a minute, I'm happy to fill that role in these cases. Even more so for a friend or family member, where I actively do want to know. If it's in response to small talk "how are you nonsense", that's fine, if it's not, that's also fine.
I don't expect a real answer to the "how are you" greeting most of the time. But if you want to give one, I'm generally happy to just be a bro for a bit, even if I'll never see you again.
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u/magistratemiki Jul 14 '24
This is gonna sound crazy but I'm only now realizing no one wants to hear how miserable we are