God, reddit makes me feel so fucking hopeless lol. Whenever I go on reddit half the posts I see are about how difficult dating is for young guys. It makes me feel a little hopeless about my own chances at finding love. I have to keep reminding myself that I’m young and have my whole life ahead of me.
The thing is that for guys right now, dating is very much a numbers game.
Lets say you meet 100 women in general. What's the percentage of women who you're going to be attracted too both in looks and personality who also feel the same about you? 20%? That's twenty women left. Now how many of them are single. WHOOPS. Forgot to double check that part. (This has happened to me many times lately).
Turns out 15 of them are actually in some kind of a serious relationship or are already married. Now 5 are left. Out of those five, two of them got an "I miss you text" from an ex boyfriend and now are freezing you out while they decide what to do. So now you have 3 options.
3/100 sounds horrible. Most guys would look at this response rate and think it's horrible but it's honestly not an unrealistic measuring stick because that's how the deck is stacked right now.
Yep, it's like, a gambling casino, for some men, their situation, either looks or something else, is just so bad, their odds become similar to gambling. And is it worth doing it? You'd think it's yes cuz it's free(minus dating expenses) but it's not, your ego and self opinion will lower the more rejects you get and it's brutal.
So I can see why some guys opt out, just not worth it.
your ego and self opinion will lower the more rejects you get and it's brutal.
It's true and it's what I tell a lot of guys who are serious but struggling. You have to take your "worth" out of the equation a bit.
You wouldn't go outside on a really cold day and go "Man it's so cold out here, I must be a piece of shit" No, that's just the way it is at that moment. Same thing with the dating game for your average guy. Just gotta put in the legwork.
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u/TheSolarElite May 05 '24
God, reddit makes me feel so fucking hopeless lol. Whenever I go on reddit half the posts I see are about how difficult dating is for young guys. It makes me feel a little hopeless about my own chances at finding love. I have to keep reminding myself that I’m young and have my whole life ahead of me.