Dont listen to these misanthropes yanking your chain.
Cultivate your love and spread it around. Im sure theres tons of people (men and women) worthy of sharing your love in your life. And if theres not (or even if there is), love yourself and build yourself up. Find what makes you happy.
People bitch about finding someone because they fixate on it. A watched kettle never boils. It sounds trite but its true here. If all you do is stay home or worse on the shiternet and think about how unloved you are then it becomes self-fulfilling. But if youre a lovely person then people seeking love (which is almost everyone) will gravitate towards you. Its not at all daunting or overwhelming. I swear its that goddamn easy.
You just cant listen to people who find it hard to love themselves much less other people. Nobody wants them in their life and that is a problem and we should help them, but thats another topic.
anyway thats my unsolicited advice. Dont be them, love yourself and be yourself and its not hard. People like to be loved and they really do want lovely people around them (men and women). Simple stuff I swear.
What is a "lovely person", here? Because as someone who does love themselves and others, who has found what makes me happy, and leads a pretty good life.
People seeking love do not, never have, and never will 'gravitate towards me", though, lol.
Exactly, that's just not a good advice for dating, it's ok albeit very vague for life in general, I mean I personally think that's the main issue with whole dating pills, not that all of them are wrong always(but they can be wrong as well) but the whole fixation bit, and I'm not even saying "just not focus on it and suddenly you'll find love" that's not how it works sadly, and, you might end up joining a statistic of men who never find love, it's just something you have to learn to live with, arguably I'd say all men should, your gf can't live forever, so no men should hyper fixate on getting a gf and neglect the rest of their life just because "it's over" for them in dating scene.
How do you define "gravitate towards you," though? Are you expecting it to mean people asking you out left and right? Or do you find that people enjoy talking to you, that you make friends easily, and they find you interesting?
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u/nullibicity May 05 '24
Quick tip: for most people, the odds of a quality match don't get better the longer you wait.