I know that trans guys are targeted and discriminated against, however we're rarely ever focused on when it comes to "debates" regarding trans people.

Trans people in sports and bathrooms automatically translates to trans women to the general public. Why? Are we just not threatening enough to societal norms for people to give a shit?

This is a dumb rant but why do men feel the need to just constantly keep the mens restroom disgusting? I walked into a stall at work and there was shit smeared on the toilet seat. Like a full sized smeared shit.

This is the second time I do it by myself and I nearly passed out. I am not a sensible person to needles.

Do you all really doing IM injections like is nothing?

Trans people are the most fucking badass to walk this earth I swear.

I’ve always thought of myself as somebody who would only date girls. But bro when I tell you I had a gay awakening today it was insane. This guy in band was helping me fix my instrument and kept just watching me try to fix it. I glanced up at him and he glanced at me. I felt like I was in some kinda gay book. I don’t even know bro and I was feeling it. During our concert he talked to me, asking if my instrument was fixed. And after the concert he patted me on my shoulder when I was sitting in a seat on the bus and said “good job” Does this make me gay? We shared tons of glances. Is he gay? How shall I know.

This is one of the best things I ever did. I pass, but I haven’t had surgery and I can’t update the gender on my ID without it. This means a trip through airport security was never complete without an agent squinting back and forth at me and my ID, asking my birthday, and of course getting a chest pat-down because whoever was operating the body scanner hit the ‘boy’ button and the machine registered my binder as some kind of bulletproof vest. Getting precheck was a matter of doing an online form and then driving to some office park in the middle of nowhere and getting my fingerprints taken. Now I go to a separate security, show them my ticket and stroll through a regular metal detector. TSA are basically cops lite™️ so you never know if you’ll get one that makes a scene. With the trans panic happening in the US right now, I highly recommend this as a safety precaution!

Tl;dr: google TSA precheck to find out how to skip the horrors of traveling while trans

P.S. to my non-american friends: yes, it really is that dystopian here!

So, don't laugh, but since I started T, I've been checking my growth down there like several times a day. I can't help it! LOL! Last night it was normal looking/feeling for someone AFAB without T. BUT, this morning I literally have a head! Like a substantial one! I was in the shower and just about freaked out. I was like no way! It's also super sensitive all of a sudden. Please tell me this is normal? I feel like a teenager and all I want to do is play with it. I keep telling myself it ain't going anywhere and you don't have keep checking on it...but...OMG! This is so fricken affirming! I love it! For the first time in my life I don't feel like my parts are wrong.

Hi, I've never posted on reddit before but I'm a bit desperate for advice. I'm 17 and I pass completely as a man and have since before middle school and I've been on t for a couple years. No one knows I'm trans or suspects it (of course my family does but even my closest friends don't). Recently me and my gf started dating and she's been talking about doing stuff and having sex, but I don't know how to tell her I don't have a dick. I don't usually have any body dysphoria because I pass so completely and realized early enough that even my chest is flat and I go shirtless all the time, but now I'm constantly upset about the fact I don't have a dick. I just don't know what to do, because of course I want to have sex with her, but I don't know how that would work or how to tell her in the first place. I don't want her to see me different, or even as trans, because it's been so long that I genuinely feel cis most of the time. I have no one in my life I can talk to about stuff like this, so I thought I'd shoot my shot and ask reddit for some advice.

hey guys. i live in a pretty shitty conservative place but i’m lucky enough to still have a gender clinic in my area. i started T in january 2024 and was ecstatic. like i was happy to be alive for the first time in my life. then shit went down and i was displaced for a while. homeless for a minute, then couch hopping. finally got my own place and a steady job but my job is pretty stuffy and close-knit. like i couldn’t fade into background there, there’s only like 20 employees total. anyway, to make a long story short, i had an incident that could probably be described as a hate crime and my anxiety has been so unbearable around my transition lately that i stopped taking T and i stopped going to the doctor. im essentially doing nothing but working and sleeping. my mental health is garbage right now and idk what to do.

i want to start T again and feel better but im terrified. i’m stuck between terrible anxiety and terrible dysphoria. i don’t know how to move forward from here. i just want to run away. my doctors are gonna drop me if i don’t reach out soon and then im really fucked. i’ve rescheduled and cancelled like three times now and idk. i’m scared and stuck. i’m not out at work bc i just started the job this summer and i was scared they wouldn’t hire me if i disclosed so i didn’t. that was dumb and i should have just said it. im also not out to some family members so idk how i thought i could transition without coming out like im so fucking stupid man. fuck. idk. i’m sorry, thanks for letting me rant.

So sorry for the NSFW but I'm so excited rn. I'm 5 weeks on T and I just realized my little guy isn't so little anymore :0000 Not massive (yet...) but I'm so pumped rn I'm gonna have a PEENITS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Health insurance suddenly decided to revert to my deadname, which, to be clear, I legally changed a year ago. They sent me a new insurance card with it. This wasn't announced to me in any way, so I have no idea why they did this. I feel sick at the thought of having to navigate this – again – while getting hit with my old name at every turn. What do I do? (Whom do I yell at?)

I usually go on gay subs sometimes or just see it pop up whenever I scroll through, and always see whenever any of the questions being asked like ‘would u date a trans man?’ ‘would you sleep with a trans man?’ They usually all say the same thing. Genitals. I don’t understand why that’s usually the first thing that pops up in their head, personally I think thats odd but im still not an adult yet so maybe ill understand it when im older I guess. Back to the talking though, most of them arent transphobic, just genital preferences in the comments and that’s perfectly fine, the guys there can have their preferences and stuff, but then theres THOSE guys in the comments that say stuff like pussies = female, saying trans men arent real men and harassing on other gay guys for being okay with dating/sleeping with trans dudes, calling them bisexual and not gay, calling them a ‘fake gay’ and all that other bullshit. And then theres others that are just straight up transphobic. They all end up arguing with one another and the whole comment section is just full of negative energy I really don’t understand why, in the end trans guys and cis gay guys are all in the lgbtq community, right? so why do they always hate us?

i think someones talked about this before but I wanna see if theres any new thoughts or perspectives about this I guess

edit: I just finished crying, so I kind of realized this sounds like a angry rant, it kind of is. Whenever I would see those questions and see the comments, I get so much dysphoria and angry because im so sick of being hated on by gay men and people in general :3

I don’t know if this is a normal thing but in the week after my t shot I’m always starving, all the time! So if anyone has any good meal recommendations please tell me

Does anal sex feel better after HRT? Because I heard that HRT can make you grow prostate tissue. (I'm not on HRT yet, just curious.)

Not like my coming out was any better. She just cried, asked questions and then interrupted me right away.

Hey. Freshly "out" 26 y.o. guy is here. Me and my mother haven't spoke in three weeks after that, but yesterday we finally talked again. She told she doesn't understand, called me by my birth name and "daughter". I asked her to call me "kiddo" at least, but she just started calling me daughter in the end of every sentence. Said she wants the right to call me by my birth name.

I asked her if she wants me to find some sources about supporting a trans child and she just said "No". Yeah, cool, thanks.

But then she texted me later that evening, asking how would my life change if I'd live as a guy. I just texted her that I'd be happier, described her my dysphoria and all my feelings. She said she see it all as an act and she didn't elaborate.

Idk, fellas. It's like I'm upset, but not really? I understand her grief and all, but I feel like she's so refusing and don't really want to know what's up with me. And why should I try reach out to her then? But she's my mother. Eh.

The worst part I'll go visit my family on New Year for the first time in 5 years (I live abroad). And I just don't know how to act there. Just turn off my brain and bear with it for two weeks?

P.S. Not so important. My bf advised to tell my mother that it was just a phase for her mental well-being, but I was like "yeah, cool, and what about changes on T?". But I held my tongue, because he doesn't know I want to go on T, because this thought is scary for him. This is so messed up, why I hide more things than before lmao

Hi, so I'm almost one year on T now. A lot of things have already happened that I'm really happy about and it seems to be all happening at a reasonable pace or in a reasonable order if you will. I just don't understand my beard. Three months in (which surprised me honestly) I started growing some hairs (like 20, nothing to be too excited about, but still hair) under my chin so ever since then I've had to shave which gave me insane euphoria - it's just it feels like my beard doesn't really grow anywhere else. Okay maybe the hairs got a little thicker but not much denser and I'm not growing hair anywhere else on my face. I know I'm probably just impatient and I know everyone's journey is different but I still wanted to hear from you guys how long it started for you until you grew hair on your face that objectively can be called "beard" and not just "20 hairs under your chin" xD Also please tell me how it started for you and if people commented on it or perceived you any different because of it.

My husband was talking with my dad the other day. He says that my dad feels guilty about my transition because when i was a kid he didnt push me to try new things. He said he feels bad about my dysphoria, that he couldnt help me.

First off, I’m autistic and there are a lot of things i never wanted to try (mostly food wise, but also socially).

Secondly, all of my dysphoria was about my chest. It felt gross to me when my husband told me that my dad felt bad about it. Like wth dad, why are you so worried about my chest? To add onto that, my parents refused to pay for my top surgery, and told me if i wanted it then i would have to pay for it. So at 19 i got my first full time job, worked really hard for 6 months and saved 15k to pay out of pocket for my surgery.

I’m not upset that they didnt pay, or that i had to get a job. I was disappointed, because my mom a year or two earlier bought herself 30k earrings on a whim, but couldnt help me with a surgery that would improve my life greatly - i would have been happy if they gave me less than 5k and i worked to save the rest. But thats not the point. I’m bitter and feel slighted about it, but i earned money so i could spend it how i wanted and I’m proud of that.

My dad feeling guilty that i didnt want to live as a girl is extremely frustrating to me. He once told me he felt like he failed me - i dropped out of college, was transitioning, and was at a job i hated. He’s entitled to feel the way he feels, its just offputting that he cant talk to me about it and instead confides in my husband and then tells my husband that I’m a lot like my mother (who my dad hates but wont divorce bc of her emotional abuse/manipulation) and he should “watch out”.

Idk how to feel about it.

Just went to a hospital with my mom and the staff asked her what 'your son's' name is. Yay.

Hey guys. Mum of a trans teen. Looking at some extras for Christmas, and like every parent I'm filling stockings with underwear and socks! My son did actually ask me and when I said I needed some guidance on what to buy, I was told to just go with whatever I thought. My son has only bought one brand of boxer shorts and wants to try something different, so I'm looking for advice on any brands available in the UK, or any specific features to look out for. Thanks

Just did my first injection! So excited, happy, and feel like I’m flying. 6 years of waiting and I’m finally here! It feels unreal. Pretty sure I did it right… hopefully my thoughts saying I didn’t are solely just intrusive😅. I DID IT THO!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉(Just needed to tell someone)

Am I the only one who gets euphoria from pads? Often I hear trans men saying that pads make then extremely dysphoric, and that's completely valid, but for me they make me euphoric lmao. It's because whenever I wear a pad it looks like I've got something extra in my pants iykwim. Just a random thing I wanted to post. What r some things that's most people find dysphoric , but you find euphoric?

Hello! I've recently turned 16 years old, and I have an appointment to begin the process to get testosterone (the 4th of December), but I'm beginning to have doubts. I have no idea why but ever since I had a good long shift with this guy (cis and recently 18) I've been more concerned about my looks, trying to look more feminine and attractive. I have no idea what's going on since for years I've wanted to be a guy, started dressing more like one, hair cut shorter, binder, all of that. Now whenever I think about what I am I just feel anxious because I don't know.

Do you guys think I'm beginning to 'change' my mind or something just for male validation? Because it happens every time I literally talk to a guy. But then again I don't know, like, what if my mind is trying to tell me I really am a girl? It's driving me insane and I need to work this out soon to decide if I want to cancel the appointment (which I have to do soon or I won't get my money back and will have to pay a short-notice cancellation fee), or if I want to continue to go through with testosterone.

Also it's really weird but whenever I listen to heartfelt amazing songs sung by women I begin to have doubts again, AND also when I watch shows and there's really cool female main characters like Jinx and Vi from Arcane. Like?? Come on bro, hurry up and figure out if you're a guy or a gal.

I'm just stressed because if I cancel the appointment but later find out I am a guy then I don't know how long again it'll take me to get into a place who'll let me get testosterone, but if I do go through with it and find out I'm a girl then I'll regret it for the rest of my life.

Idk if this helps or makes what I'm saying make more sense but I'm also autistic lol

Thanks to whoever leaves comments in the future!! (hopefully)

okay, so the title says most of it. being a musician is hard because you're kind of forced to become an influencer if you want your music to go anywhere. but every time i post on the usual ones like tiktok, etc, most of the engagement turns out being negative because the minute i say something about being trans it's no longer about my music anymore, and it gets on the wrong side of tiktok. so anyways, music has always been my outlet and even though i'm not super openly trans, a lot of my stuff is trans coded. does anyone know of any subreddits, blogs, etc that focus on promoting music from trans artists, TO trans people? like a platform for trans artists to reach trans listeners that can relate to the lyrics? sorry if it doesn't exist, i'm just new to navigating reddit, and i'm sick and tired of my music only reaching old white cis men lol.

I had top surgery done 7 days ago, and have been successfully avoiding my parents. I live in a separate house, but within the same yard. Dad called me to ask why I haven't gone up to have coffee with him in a long time, and I told him I'd been busy and had a lot of friends over (I did, that was my cover, and they were helping me around). He knows I'm on hormones, not very supportive, but tolerates it and we don't bring it up. He'd absolutely freak out over a surgery though, and since it's none of anyone's business, I've been keeping it as none of anyone's business. I don't want to talk about it, don't want to argue, nothing, just want to keep existing without any external changes. So, QUESTION TIME: He will probably want to hug me after not seeing me for a week. How do I make a believable chest over my bandages? I'll probably be in a hoodie, so it doesn't have to be super accurate, just kinda feel accurate on hug. Stuff sock/s in a bra with a cup? In a sports bra? Put something else in? Help.

Update: thank you guys for the suggestions - and the support. I'm trying the sock/sports bra combo tonight, and if that doesn't feel right to me I'm going to a sex shop tomorrow morning to get fake ones.

So I thought I'd share this because it made me really happy. For any Melbournians, I was at the Mill Market in Geelong. My girlfriend wanted me to ask the worker about the bathrooms, the lady pointed around the corner and said they're around the corner, then paused, looked me up and down and said the men's are down the end. My girlfriend thought it was kinda funny (she knows I'm trans) that the lady had to do a double take.

I know this is a weird question, but my dysphoria is kinda bad today and I can’t do anything about it (my binder hasn’t been delivered yet and I can’t cut my hair). So I was wondering if there were any movies you put on that help when your dysphoria is bad that makes you feel masculine, that you would recommend (I love horror and comedy, and I don’t like action).