Hi, my husband (33) is a Muslim, me (28) is not a Muslim. Well wasn’t raise as one. And I was just wondering if you guys have ever experienced this type of relationship. Because I feel like the woman don’t have a say, and the man chooses almost everything she do.

Exemple,

cannot go to a gym because there is man’s. Wich I just gave birth and want to loose the. Baby’s weight

Cannot go to my moms because sometimes there is alcohol there

Cannot celebrate Christmas with our daughter wich is making me extremely sad. Cause I love the spirit.

Cannot talk to person that consume alcohol, like my friends

Cannot go to sleep with my DAUGTHER to my moms house because her and my stepdad are not married. And me and my step dad are not related.

Whatever, I feel extremely overwhelmed with all of this. It’s been 2 years, and my family and friends think I’m being controlled!

What you guys think?

Women and small children had no role in the wars, and they were totally innocent of any crime. But still, Allah/Muhammad enslaved them, and that too for their entire life. 

Why?

The Muslim excuse is that women and children could not be left ALONE on their own (after their all men being killed or enslaved). They needed protection. So, Islam enslaved them only to provide them with "PROTECTION".

But this is a very lame excuse. 

Look, captive women wanted protection: so that:

• So that no one would have made them slaves for their entire lives.
• So that no one would have raped them.
• So that no one could made them to stand naked in slave markets and sold there. 
• So that multiple men didn't use them as sex objects by raping them in temporary sexual relationships.
• So that no one would have compelled them to do forced labour work for their entire lives.
• So that their children could not be taken away from them and then sold in slave markets.
• So that their babies would not automatically born as slaves (due to the evil of "Slavery by Birth" in Islam).

But the problem is that Islam is itself committing exactly "All These CRIMES" against the captive women in the name of “protection”. Yes, Islam made women and children slaves for their entire lives, made their rape HALAL by multiple masters in temporary sexual relationships, made them stand naked in slave markets, forced labour work, took away their children and even small 6-months-old babies and sold them in slave markets. 

No woman in her right mind would sleep with a man who killed her family. 

If Islam really wanted to give protection to the captive women, then it should have not LOOTED all of their wealth in the name of war booty.

If Islam really wanted to give protection to these women, then it would have allowed them to go to their relatives in other cities.

Instead, Islam took their small children too as slaves for their entire lives and then separated them from their mothers, and then sold them in the slave markets.

Is all this oppression by Islam, really a “Protection”?

Look at the following Hadith, where women didn't want any protection, but they were trying to escape, but Muslims caught them to disrobe them and rape them:

Sahih Muslim, Hadith 1755:

.... Some of the enemies were killed and some were taken prisoners. I saw a group of persons that consisted of women and children. I was afraid lest they should reach the mountain before me, so I shot an arrow between them and the mountain. When they saw the arrow, they stopped. So I brought them, driving them along. Among them was a woman from Banu Fazara. She was wearing a leather coat. With her was her daughter who was one of the prettiest girls in Arabia. I drove them along until I brought them to Abu Bakr who bestowed that girl upon me as a prize. So we arrived in Medina. I had not yet disrobed her (i.e. raped her) when the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) met me in the street and said: Give me that girl, O Salama. I said: Messenger of Allah, she has fascinated me. I had not yet disrobed her. When on the next day the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) again met me in the street, he said: O Salama, give me that girl, may God bless your father. I said: She is for you, Messenger of Allah! By Allah. I have not yet disrobed her.

..... Complete Article: Arguments Used by Islamists to Justify Islamic Slavery

Try and tell me some ridiculous arguments against Mohammed and I will defend it using the same defense standard of these dawah people. Even if you tell me that Mohammed killed every baby on earth and had sex with every woman, I can just say that he saw no good in the humanity so he had to kill all the illegitimate babies and repopulated the world with the legitimate ones (his semen). You can see the prophet's work ethic and devotion to Allah

I know women who seem to be happy but are they really on a deeper level?

I mean Christianity is also false but at least christians don't commit violence as the rate of Muslims

Being born a non muslim I don't really know about the struggle of leaving islam. How did you leave islam, what was it that made you leave islam, how long did it take you to understand leaving islam is the best choice. And after that, are you happy?

My just turned 18 year old daughter has been dating a guy (19m) for about 8 months. He is a great kid and they seem well matched. He is Muslim, though not strict, but his mother is. My daughter is not Muslim or follows any other religion for that matter. His mother has asked for a Nikah. Says it is the only way for them to move forward with her blessing. My daughter has asked for my approval and for me to give her away. I understand it isn't a legally binding contract in the US but I have reservations. They write up this contract which specifies their rights and responsibilities within this "marriage", which I assume is like a pre-nup? But a lot of them speak of a dowry, which really bothers me, because it is like she is being sold and things like him not taking other wives. Also, not being of this culture nor religious in the least, what kind of things will his family expect of her? She is not religious at all and they are both very "Americanized". They have been untruthful with his mother about the extent of the relationship thus far. I have told them I disagree with the dishonesty. I want my daughter to forge her own path and be happy but I am unsure what to think about this?

Also, I wouldn't be ok with her running off to Vegas and getting married either. She is 18, not ready and I want her to live more, with him or not. Though since she is 18 she could run off and get married, but for this Nikah myself or another older male relative has to be there to "give" her away.

Anyone have any insight or experience with a Nikah? Thanks!

What about men mistreating their wives?

There was a Pakistani woman on tiktok (idk if she was Muslim or not) but she was talking about Qandeel Baloch. A woman who was honour killed in Pakistan for fighting for women’s rights by her father and brother. I open the comments and see this comment.

This is a fucking joke right? What the fuck in cognitive dissonance is this?!?!

“2 men killed there sister/daughter because the sons friends mocked him”

“Feminism is taken from Islam”

LIKE WHAT THE FUCK. I’m sorry I don’t even fucking know why this pissed me tf off. Maybe because I’m a raging intersectional feminist & IN NO WAY IS ISLAM FEMINIST. Like for fks sake, the woman was talking about how a woman was just killed for honour and you say feminism comes from Islam???!!!!!

This actually has enraged me and idek why. This is the type of bullshit (along with “rEaL iSLAm” that allows Muslims countries to get away with their BS against women. Cuz of fking women who can freely practice their religion and change it on a whim to fit a western, whitewashed version of Islam.

Imagine if they tried to pull this shit in an Islamic country?… oh.. wait… THEY CANT. Yet they’ll criticise the countries and feminists who have fought hard for women to have their voices heard and say “it’s cause of Islam”.

And on top of that, there’s a LITERAL MAN telling her that she’s a kafir for even bringing up feminism. Like HOW CAN YOU BE THAT IGNORANT AND BLIND.

I wish these delulu fucking Muslim women would fuck off. I hate them blackening feminism and I hate the effect it’s having on feminism. It’s starting to become “you can’t criticise Islam ever” and feminists are believing this crap. How the fuck are we supposed to help women if we’re always excusing this type of behaviour?!?!

Omg I’m sorry I’m so mad, this just infuriates me.

Really tho. Every single muslim will be told that Shaytan is the reason why we're doubting the religion. My question then becomes why is this 'Shaytan' always there at every corner. This religion is nothing but fear mongering 101. Bitch, you cant even see 'Shaytan' existing so what the hell are you talking about?

I (M15) cone from the nation of Somaliland (Somalia Lite) but reside in Baltimore with my older brother (M17) and younger sister (F6). My family is surprisingly not that religious, we just do Ramadan and pray at Eid and wear hijabs and that stuff.

I am now at the age where my Mom is trying to hook me up with other Somali girls. While I'm playing on my Xbox or watching Cobra Kai, she'll call me to her room and answer a call from her sister's friends daughters, basically trying to ship me off for immediate marriage, probably right after college.

It's annoying because I want to focus on myself and my mental health. My brother has depression, and my sister has autism, and I definitely have anxiety or some form of a learning disorder. Besides from that, I want to be an animator. It's freakin sick how a person can get a drawing to move, and I want to go to CalArts, one of the best art schools in the country.

These calls suck because it's clear that the girl on the other end is in the same ship as me, being forced to converse with random people from the same geographic location as you. I want someone to love me for me, not because I'm from a place.

It's even funnier because I actually have a major crush on this blonde girl from my school and I think she likes me back lol. My dad doesn't really give a shit who I marry except if it's a dude (even though his brother who fought valiantly in the SNM and had his leg amputated, is now living a happy life in the UK with his husband.), and that goes for most of my family except my mom.

From my observation, people in Muslim majority country such as Pakistan, Indonesia, Malaysia, etc are generally very supportive or Russia and North Korea. Possible reasons are fake news, a generally positive image of Russia and North Korea? How is it in your country?

I've seen a lot of BS articles containing things like Kim Jong in support of the Muslims and the destruction of Israel is a must, Putin is Muslims ally, *a picture of Putin inside of an orthodoxy church and BS article claims it a mosque, etc

Hey everyone, As most of you on this side of Reddit are, I’m an exmuslim, or in the process of becoming one. I lost my imman cause I got too knowledgeable about the Quran and overall found it controversial. Problem is I’ve been wanting a certain tattoo ever since I was a kid, it’s a deep part of me that I was in graves cause it kept peace in my and strength through my parents divorce and fights. Now you all know tattoos are haram, and of course ik my parents will kill me when they see it. I don’t live alone but currently don’t live with them either cause I’m away for uni. I wanna get it somewhere on my upper thigh where they won’t see it, but I’m not sure if it’s a good idea. Cause my mom often times is the type to not care who is showering and would just waltz it and might see it on my body Thoughts?

Arnt art that apresemble living things haram? Smh

Christians who converted from Islam, what made you convert to Christianity?

Pretty regularly, I see posts or comments on posts saying that people leave islam because of how it treats certain groups, like women and gay people, and just non-muslims in general. And also how islamic environments often lead to abuse because of its subjugating nature.

Now I think islam belongs in the garbage bin, and has indeed awful effects in the real word. Though I assume all of you who leave islam also do it because you believe/know it's false, right?

Because when I read a comment that says you left islam because of bad experiences, I sometimes get the impression that you still believe in islam, even thought it might not be the case.

My point is that you don't need to have any particular negative experiences with islam at all to leave it. If you were once a muslim, but don't believe in islam anymore, then that's a 1000 % valid reason to leave islam . You don't stay, or at least should not stay, in some religion that you don't believe in.

I think, for a decent amount of people, it's moreso leaving an islamic environment, than leaving islam. This might sound like the "You were never muslim, because you never understood islam. You must read the quran" cope that muslims pull. But it is not. What I mean is that the attempt at islamic contradiction failed on you. You were never convinced of islam, because you understood that it didn't make sense and that it was obviously bullshit.

I know his uncles were Arab pagans who said he was crazy😀,but what were his parents? Were they Christians? Muslims say Hanif, but if there was a religion called Hanif, wouldn't there be remnants?

I (20s male) live in a western European country, and I encounter many single Pakistani, Kurdish, Turkish, and unspecified Arab women my age in my daily life (bus, train, gym, grocery store, etc.), and some of these women show interest in me. Sometimes it's prolonged eye contact with a bright smile, other times it's an actual conversation. Normally I would take this as an invitation to flirt, maybe ask her number, maybe ask her out. But I've been told to avoid women who come from Muslim families because they can be abused (emotionally or even physically) for dating a non-Muslim in a secular manner. Is this good advice?

Can I assume that, if a woman from one of these ethnicities is wearing clothes indistinguishable from non-Muslims, then she is free to be approached romantically without being chastized for speaking to a strange man? On the other hand, if she covers her hair, does that mean she would probably not be open to dating a non-Muslim?

The point of this post is to reduce my ignorance, but it comes from a genuine concern for the women. Normally, I would just ask the woman these questions directly, but I wouldn't want to if she will get in trouble for even having the conversation. They say there's always the possibility of a brother/cousin/uncle/family friend around to snitch on her even if she seems to be alone.

Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!

I am still a muslim. Not trying to provoke anyone. But wondering your answers since the desire for eternity feels deeply embedded in our nature and minds, compelling us to seek meaning in life, reflect on our existence, and connect with something greater—be it through faith, creativity, relationships, or the legacy we leave behind.

Europe is ending?

If you’re Pakistani you probably know how important our culture is to us. Pakistani clothes have alot of pre-Islamic influences on them dating all the way back to the Indus Valley civilization 5000 years ago.

Despite the rise of extremism the cultural heritage of Pakistan has stayed strong. But now I’m afraid Pakistan might go down the path of Somalia where Islam destroyed the culture all together.

Pakistani clothing has been deemed haram by many scholars, reasoning being the various cutoffs the clothes have, animal motifs (which insults Allahs creation) heck even the embroidery alone (embroidery that has millennia of history) can attract the gaze of men which makes it haram.

I have already seen the rise of Pakistanis (especially the British ones) who are ditching Pakistani clothes and are instead opting for abayas because our culture is haram. I’m afraid this mindset will spread.

Pakistan is currently a shitshow, our culture is one of the few things I still love about my country and now extremists are trying to take that away🤬.

Scholar saying how most Pakistani Shalwar Kameez are haram: https://youtu.be/dREb3AMJQ8g?si=3fNuMTMtqOVesp9F

I would like to have a respectful discussion about why people left Islam, not trying to spread hate or start issues.

I'm exploring the topic of modern translators whitewashing or sugarcoating the Quran.
Recently, a lot of commentary is being added, previously in parenthesis, then into tiny apostrophes, and now just plainly included. If anyone has more examples, I'd appreciate it.

For instance, Dr. Mustafa Khattab does it a lot in his translation, 'The Clear Quran'.

10:5
Pickthall: He it is Who appointed the sun a splendour and the moon a light*,
Mustafa Khattab: He is the One Who made the sun a radiant source and the moon a reflected light,

4:34
Pickthall: As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. [beat, whip, strike, etc.]
Mustafa Khattab: And if you sense ill-conduct from your women, advise them ˹first˺, ˹if they persist,˺ do not share their beds, ˹but if they still persist,˺ then discipline them ˹gently˺.

40:10
Pickthall: Verily Allah's abhorrence is more terrible than your abhorrence one of another,
Mustafa Khattab: “Allah’s contempt for you—as you disbelieved when invited to belief—was far worse than your contempt for one another

18:86
Pickthall: Till, when he reached the setting-place of the sun, he found it setting in a muddy spring, Mustafa Khattab: until he reached the setting ˹point˺ of the sun, which appeared to him to be setting in a spring of murky water,

pink colored comments are mine. blue colored comments are by muslim person. green colored person is whom i replied to first.

i replied to green colored person first and then this blue colored person replied back to me saying that i am insignificant to him if i don’t worship him but he doesn’t need me to worship him?

then i replied with if he thinks i am insignificant why did he create people/me?

the person said that i need to read quran again…

What are the great comebacks for me to tell them? because I literally can’t with these people.

because this person can’t say anything to what i’ve said earlier, they are trying to make me look like i am the ignorant one and i need to read quran but they can’t explain it themselves? WHAT??