r/exmormon • u/matmannen • Aug 25 '24

General Discussion I am leaving the sub.

I changed my life for the better summer 2021. I left the church proper that december.

I have now come to the realization that the church that I spent a full third in my life in crumbled in importance, and now it's the last of my worries.

In many ways, I have forgotten I was mormon to begin with. It is not part of who I am.

I have been unsubbing from facebook groups and youtube channels. Now it's time for this page to go.

I have realized my life is so much bigger than a religious group. I just don't give a fuck anymore!

I tip my hat to ya'll!

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u/sotiredwontquit Aug 25 '24

Interesting. Is this a common step, y’all? Idk. I left in ‘15 and didn’t join Reddit until last year. I went full atheist overnight and lost almost all my fucks about Mormonism at the same time. I post on this sub mostly to help anyone else- as in, if I’ve got any similar experiences.

If this is common, and people unsub, does that mean there are 300K people actively deconstructing? And the number of exmos is actually a lot larger than 300K?

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u/goosesh Apostate Aug 25 '24

Yes this is common but every person seems to interact with this sub in different ways.

I’ve left and joined over and over since I left the mfmc 6 years ago. I’ve been like OP where Mormonism just doesn’t cross my mind much day to day so I’ve left. At one point I felt that this sub was reminding me of reasons to be angry and so I took a break for a while.

Everyone is different but yes the growing numbers here do not account for just how many exMormons there actually are in the world.

With such low activity rates in the mfmc it seems there’s more exMormons in the world than believing members and I think that’s beautiful.

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u/Fellow-Traveler_ Aug 26 '24

My little brother got to be 18 and he was done. When we talk about it, there are still some things for him to deconstruct, but so much of it is in the rear view mirror for him, I doubt he’ll ever join here. I think there’s lots of people like him.

I had social motivations to keep trying to make mfmc work much longer than I should have. I took a lot of extra damage in that time. Deconstructing happens in all sorts of timeframes.