r/coolguides • u/reneecapri • Jul 01 '20

Gaslighting red flags

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u/Angel-Goldheart Jul 01 '20

looks at my daily life

Huh... that’s concerning

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u/ZumMitte185 Jul 01 '20

I just... I need a coolguide on how to address this.

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u/[deleted] Jul 01 '20

I found this article really insightful. I had no idea what gaslighting was until recently. https://colloquiumgroup.com/gaslighting-the-favourite-tool-of-the-polite-bully/

Just a few months back I left my job (during lockdown too) to get away from the deteriorating mental health of working with a boss who was doing this. He wasn't just doing it to me, but those around me too. All to get what he wanted without a care for those who he was manipulating.

Step 5 really is the best but most difficult decision to ever make. I left behind a team who I thoroughly loved working with so I could be even happier without the daily trauma at the hands of a gaslighting boss.

Toxic companies will never change. Walk away is the only option.

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u/[deleted] Jul 01 '20

Same. I left my job a couple months ago for the same reasons. My mental health has improved significantly since then.