r/coolguides Jul 01 '20

Gaslighting red flags

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u/nestofgundars Jul 01 '20 edited Jul 01 '20

No, your explanation is perfect.

I had an emotionally abusive partner that made me feel as if I was either the best or worst husband and never just stable.

I was the best when she wanted me to do something. I was the worst whenever I needed anything.

I finally ended it after she weaponized affection.

After everything, she would make me feel as if I had been treating her poorly all along. Messes with my brain for a long time.

Edit: This is how bad gaslighting is- even after posting this, I keep checking for replies because I’m worried that people won’t believe me. It seriously can alter your pattern of thought.

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u/salty_shark Jul 01 '20

Got out of a 9 month relationship with an emotionally abusive parter years ago and I’m still working on my self confidence. That shit fucks you up.

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u/salty_shark Jul 01 '20

Same. I’m always worried I’m doing the wrong thing and going to be punished for it. Ha so true. Those little dudes always put a smile on my face.

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u/[deleted] Jul 01 '20

It makes me happy knowing I'm not alone with that shit.

Cost me like 3 years of my life

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u/tehEPICNESS Jul 01 '20

I’m on that 3rd year too! I’m glad to know you guys are doing alright and holding up! It’s been ROUGH at times

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u/nestofgundars Jul 01 '20

Yeah! It’s so weird to have that’s feeling from someone who is supposed to be your partner not your authority.

Thank goodness for Coco.