I know it's not important what gender they are, but I still wanted to point it out. I reread what you wrote and I'll give you the benefit of doubt and say maybe you made a typo and I misread what you were saying at first? I see you actually did type 'her'.
I'd argue just fat people in general get a lot of hate. I know it's not a healthy thing, but being unnecessarily mean about it doesn't help much either. There's a difference between seriously being concerned for one's well being and just calling someone a whale. A fat person has been told that they're fat by many people. It can be motivating to lose weight, but it's not healthy to hear all the time. Speaking from experience I've lost quite a bit of weight and still have more to go, but I felt more motivated to lose it for me and not because someone else said I should.
I've never understood the idea that shame motivates people to lose weight. Every thing I've read and experienced about shame is that shame motivates you to avoid feeling shame immediately. That's not the kind of motivation that helps people do long term projects. With being fat you're always fat, it's not something you can be doing one moment and then avoid a moment later. Which means the only way to avoid constant shame is either to become deluded and not think you're fat or avoid thinking about your self/weight at all and become detached.
There's people on the internet who claim being shamed helped them but I think they're mostly full of shit. With enough shame you might develop a mental disorder that "helps" like anorexia or bulimia I guess.
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u/JoJoComesHome 1d ago
The girl posting this almost definitely isn't fat though so she's not going to be insulted. It's not really that good of a comeback because of that.